I THREW THEM OUT OF MY HOUSE.

by bebu 23 Replies latest jw experiences

  • bebu
    bebu

    They came back. P and her first partner, S (who, by the way, was not the friend of my JW friend after all).

    P and S told me that there was no reason to be upset about all the comments given (see below, added information); it was just a matter of misunderstanding ("like John and James, who thought that they were going to be sitting next to Jesus. They made a mistake.") I tried to tell them that this issue was so important, that it was impossible to ignore. They have (the daughter was not here, btw... I still wonder about her). Each time I tried to speak, there were interruptions. I asked S if she'd read the papers I'd given. She said yes (but dismissed them, since they were only portions. I said that long paragraphs were there. She scoffed.

    For several minutes I tried to explain that the issue of whether an organization teaches that it must be followed even if they were false prophets--was more important than all the things she was now trying to shove in (Christmas, in particular). It went contrary to the specific command of God in the OT, and of Jesus in the NT. She kept interrupting. I finally lost my patience and said, "Can I finish my comment?" and she said, "No, you keep interrupting mine!" (This may have been the case. I was not going to listen to prattle about how teachings of Christmas outranked false prophecy.)

    I can't clearly remember the next bit of dialogue, but I was angry. There's a time for gathering stones, and a time for casting away. A loud thought in my head said, "If you are people who have seen what the issue is, and still favor a false prophet over God, then I will have nothing to do with you."

    I said something to that effect, opened the door, and they gladly left.

    Then, I called my JW friend. She hadn't left for work yet. She said, "What's wrong?" I said, "___, I just threw your friends out of my house!.... They were nice people and all... BUT!!!!" She said, "Bebu, don't worry!! I'm your friend!! I'm your friend!"

    Well, we'll see if she knows what friendship is now. If she has it in her.. or not She's coming over right after work--so she won't be "talked to" by her "sisters" until she sees me. I will show her what I showed those gals.

    Talk about a sudden turn of events.

    bebu

    Edited to add as reference, from an earlier thread:

    And I told them both! I explained briefly that Franz and Haydon had admitted under oath that it was required for Witnesses to follow them, even if they were found to be false prophets! That if witnesses objected to false prophecy, they would be disfellowshiped, and be considered worthy of death! I said, "When I originally read these things, I nearly fell off my chair! There's absolutely NO reconciliation between this and what the Bible commands about never following false prophets. In legal court cases in Israel, the Bible required 2 witnesses; however, only ONE witnesses (the failed prophecy) was necessary to convict a false prophet. This underscores the severity of the view of false prophecy. Jesus spoke MANY times about bewaring of false prophets! They are not to be trusted."

    She started thumbing thru her Bible, with an anxious look and furrowed brow , and I said, "Look, while you're doing that, I'll get you the Scotland trial references so that you can look them up if you like!"

    Off I went and printed off pages I have on file here. (Precisely, I selected the text from the documents off of this page: http://watchtower.observer.org/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/20040312/DOCTRINE/10527012) and printed it, avoiding any other editorials on the page.)

    I came back and said that I used a phrase I recalled from the trial (promulgated false prophecy) as well as the word paragraph in order to get a page with references for the document (this is true--I didn't do it this morning, however; I did it a while back!)

    I actually read the 3+ pages aloud to them both. There was no interruptions from either of them. They were silent when I was done. I turned to them and said, "Perhaps you have another way of getting around this, but to me it seems extremely clear that the WT leaders taught people must follow them even if they were false prophets... and that they expect unity at all costs, even if against the Bible... and neither of these things is Biblical. "

    More silence, with some very concerned looks.

  • JustTickledPink
    JustTickledPink

    I truly can't imagine how I'd feel having JWs in my home. We have a beautiful new house and it's sooo peaceful and has a good feel to it. It's hard to explain, but it feel so much like a sanctuary to me, that if I had them INSIDE, it would almost feel tainted, like they brought bad juju in with them.

  • Big Tex
    Big Tex

    Bebu they could behave no other way. For them to acknowledge what you showed them would be to face the death penalty. I saw the same things when I was leaving. Most Witnesses prefer the "go along to get along" approach. They truly do not care if they really have "the truth" (whatever that is), they just want to perform their little rituals because it gives them comfort, in a mindless sort of way. To leave takes more effort than to stay.

    But at least you tried.

  • bebu
    bebu

    I'm left wondering if throwing them out of my house was due to bad temper. Surely, lost patience. But I have never thrown anyone out of my house before, EVER.

    I have spoken with dozens of Mormon boys, and NEVER came close to throwing anyone out. Discussions were truly discussions. Thought-provoking discussions. These dear gals had no thoughts of their own to provoke.

    Like you said, BT, they need security and comfort above all. And I guess that is their god.

    My hope for them now is that at some point, because they will surely remember this episode, they try to justify themselves and go over it again and the lights go on... or, in explaining to others why they were thrown out, what the big issue was all about!

    bebu

  • Brummie
    Brummie

    I always said they can test the patience of a saint. Not to worry Bebu, I know a guy that got so furious with their insensitive arrogant attitude that he grabbed one by the collar and literally threw them out. You have handled them a lot better than some, but thats cus you're more of a saint x x x

    Brummie

  • franklin J
    franklin J

    hip hip hooray! three cheers for Bebu!

  • blondie
    blondie

    Don't confuse me with the facts....

    It is hard to come through the "front door" with JWs. I know, I was one (hey I said it). I can remember when one of my Bible students tried to prove to me that the WTS was doing underhanded things behind the scenes (Mexico cartillas). But I didn't forget it and I kept trying to prove it wrong to myself. About 11 years later, here I am out and posting on JWD.

    Many people, not just JWs, hand over the responsibility for their thinking to others, that way if some is wrong, it is that person's fault not their own.

    The WTS programs its people to respond to only certain situations and to shut down when other topics come up.

    It's like trying to prove to someone that their spouse is cheating on them.

    Good job, Bebu

  • czarofmischief
    czarofmischief
    To leave takes more effort than to stay.

    I must issue a friendly disagreement with that statement. I truly believe that the continual effort, the small pushes that a JW must give his own mind every time he is confronted with reality, in the end adds up to more effort than a DA'ing. My six months of being Dffed were terrible, but when I compare that with the continual effort of ten YEARS of being baptized, in the end I wish I'd left sooner. But I know what you mean - it's like a credit card. You can pay the minimum or you can pay the balance. The minimum lasts forever and costs you ten times as much as just biting the bullet and paying it off all at once - but some people just don't have the capital to pay it off. Or they would rather spend the money on other things. Whatever.

    Good job, bebu. More effort than I would have put into trying save them. Really spectacular. You have a pm.

    CZAR

  • Big Tex
    Big Tex
    I truly believe that the continual effort, the small pushes that a JW must give his own mind every time he is confronted with reality, in the end adds up to more effort than a DA'ing

    So do I. But if most JWs are inert, leaving is more than they want. I agree with you, the demands placed on them are tremendous and in the end is costs far more to stay than to leave. In the end, it's easier to stay, keep your head down and be comforted by the known and familiar. I'm not advocating it, or saying it's right, just that it is.

  • shamus
    shamus

    JW's cannot handle the truth. They're actions were just what I expected. You can't teach them truth, because they usually don't want to believe it. Imagine your whole belief system going down the toilet! My advice? don't even bother with them.

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