Hi. I'm a new member on the forum (have been 'lurking' the last couple days). I guess I always think about the stain JW's have left on my life around the holidays (how festive). My biological mother is a JW, my parents divorced when I was 5, and at age 10 my father gained custody of me so I didn't really "grow-up" as a JW, however, I have a lot of horrible memories from when I was younger...i.e. the Elders coming over and shaking me because they found out I took part in Xmas activities at school (I was ratted-out by my mother), my mother working 2 jobs because she quite college the moment she became a JW and blaming me/beating me for the poverty, the other witnesses being so mean to my mother (and me), having private meetings, as they knew I would visit my dad and celebrate holidays, etc. Anyway, soon after I went to live with my father, my mother and I had really no contact. Sometimes she would "sneak" to meet me for lunch, however, this was not allowed by her JW brethren and our only contact soon became random calls to try to 'save' me and the copies of Awake! and Watchtower that seemed to follow me to every dorm/apartment/home I ever lived in.
The reason I am writing is this...over the past year she has been calling me...I haven't seen her since college and I am 32...she is still a JW, but seems to be 'softening' in her language trying to convert me and sometimes will ask me about normal life events...A strained relationship, for sure, however, I am wondering if there is anyway I can "save" her from the JW's...she hasn't had much of a life...working menial jobs and spending hours and hours pioneering...now she is in poor health and getting flack for her lack of 'door-to-door' work...even though we don't share a real mother-daughter love relationship, I do care, as she is my mother, and wish I could open her eyes to make her life better...
I am thinking of sending her one of those ex-Witness books...does anyone know of one that might help or even cut through the thick-skin of somebody who has been brainwashed for 30+ years?
Thanks much...I've really enjoyed reading all of these posts...