I would recommend that, if you can, you try to spend time with her and your new grandchild that is not wrapped around a holiday.
I second that suggestion, lonelymom. Actually, I did this in reverse. When I was a JW, my family were mostly all JWs but my husband's family were Lutherans. We made sure we went down to see his family every opportunity we could that wasn't around a holiday. We made sure we went down the first part of December (just after Thanksgiving but before Christmas). We would have had them to our house but they liked being visited rather than visiting their children (they treated their other non-JW children the same way). We timed it that we saw them about every 4 weeks. It meant a 2 hour drive one-way for us, but we enjoyed it and I think they did too. Of course, you would be doing this from the other perspective but the idea is the same.
Don't let yourself be shut out but tact is the watchword.
Hi lonelymom. I'm so sorry to hear of your plight. It really is a relief to connect with people who understand your struggles, and can give you some comfort and good advice.
I have a JW friend who I am dealing with; I've never been a JW. It's interesting to see how many non-JWs are coming to this site these days because of spouses or children that have become a JW. It's a good place for us to meet and help each other.
Thank you all for your words of encouragement. I keep my feelings about all of this from my daughter, her husband and my granddaughter. Although I don't agree I respect her decisions. Respect is a pretty strong word at this point, but I do respect my daughter soooooo, I am reading all I can on the links that each of you are sending me and hopefully I will be able to turn this into a winning situation.
I'm not sure on the get together because if my daughter ever found out I was going to something like that she would be furious and probably never speak to me again. I'm not sure I'm ready but there may be people out there that are.
