by LittleToe 163 Replies latest jw friends
Brummie:
I think most of us males have at some stage met a female who has laughed her head off while tugging at our belts and pants in public places.
Aye.
I used to work as a bartender and wine-waiter, as a kid, so I'm used to handling drunken hen-parties. Not everyone has had the benefit of that experience.
So, how should we deal with it?
Personally I go for a firm insistance that they desist, regardless of how attractive them are.
What's a guy or gal to do if that doesn't work?
Ballistic:Life is a learning experience.
I'd really rather the thread was kept de-personalised, so please feel free to spout off hypothetically...
What's a guy or gal to do if that doesn't work?
Being fondled against your will is assault. Call the police. They have a tendency to cause drunks to suddenly sober up.
Robyn
What's a guy or gal to do if that doesn't work?
If my icy cold glare doesn't work (and it usually does) I walk away from the situation myself. Unfortunately it would have been difficult for you to do that as you were in the middle of fiddle playing....
I guess at that point you just have to depend on the kindess of strangers and/or a Princess.
What's a guy or gal to do if that doesn't work?
Give her a totally free knuckle sandwich?
break the hand thats rocking the cradle?
I got attacked by a hen party while I was on a bus, I was reading a Christian book at the time and they all got on (embarrased) and I was on my way to work. My tie was strangling me as they laughed their heads off but at least my belt was loose, I got to work looking like I had survived a crash. They all thanked me for being a good sport when they got of the bus, and then I picked myself up off the floor.
god granted me protection from sexual harrassment..i'm plain
You and me both candidlynuts.
Sherry, fantastic response, better than anything I could add.
I know the first time I wore a kilt (they're really quite comfortable, although a bit breezy), I was a little nervous about people taking a peek but everyone was cool. Yes there was teasing but it never crossed the line and frankly I don't mind being teased. It was kinda fun. Although I will admit now that I didn't wear my kilt the last fest as I was concerned someone there was going to engage in unwanted spelunking. I used to have a really bad temper, and occasionally it pops up. If someone had touched, or tried to, I guarantee I would have seriously lost my temper.
Ross, from a distance, it sounds as though you handled your situation with far more class than I would have. But still, there are situations that come up and even though you know handled it as well could be expected, there is still a sour aftertaste and it can linger for some time. I think starting this thread is a great idea, and I truly hope it helps.
Chris
((((((((Ross)))))))
I don't have much to say that hasn't been said already so I'll just offer this, sexual harassment has no gender specific qualifications. It happens to men as well as women and I honestly think you would have been well within your rights to have given the person a slap across the face, not a punch but a slap.
That said I'll relate a story that happened to my niece. Just so happened that the day before I saw program on TV on how to deal with child molesters or someone who would make advances to you in a place of work. What was said to do is to say in a loud voice to call attention to the person who is violating you; "What do you think you are doing touching me there?"
While at a grocery store with my niece a man came up behind her and my daughter and fondled her behind. The girls immediately came to me and told me about it and showed me who did it. So I went up to the guy and right in the middle of the store asked him loudly; "Why did you touch my nieces behind like that?" Well the store manager got involved and escorted the guy (and his 10 year old son) out of the store. But it put him on notice, I bet it was a long time before he tried that again, <sigh>.
Point of the story is to immediately call attention to the person violating you letting anyone in hearing distance know what's happening. It puts a stop to it right then and you would be surprised at how many women put up with touching from men (bosses and co-workers) instead of doing what I said.
Be current with your feelings, if you feel violated by someone let them know immediately and if the situation calls for it bring it to attention of others in the room. Hindsight is 20/20 but there is nothing like being prepared.
For the record though I have to say LT is dead sexy in that kilt
I'm Dead Sexy!!!
Ross, dude, I really dont want to look under your kilt man............
~~Hill
Stilla:Would you be offended if you asked them to desist and they ignored you? DO NOT KNOW - Probably not - but I would be unlikely to ask them t odesist in the first place unless my wife was with me
Btw, talking of cross-dressing, did you know that you're registered as a femme?
Yes sir I did - my way of a joke and poking fun at myself - I was registered as in another country also - but it is Missouri - one day for fun I might say I am in the Greater Manchester area - or even Penicuik Midlothian
