Urgent! Need help - I told my parents. (page 19)

Jez

So, (clears throat, looks around the room) Filip, how are you?

Filip, for a 15 year old you are very bright, continue thinking for yourself and doing you're research and you're confusion will subside. There is no life in the WTower, the younger you are when you realise this the better life will become. As the saying goes "No one can live unless they stop living a lie.

Brummie

a friend in need

Why don't you all just jump in here?

I ask Alan F a question.

Big Tex answers.

I respond to Big Tex.

Valis answers for Big Tex.

What is this ... musical computers?

Jez

(thinks a friend in need is in need of her OWN thread)

Valis

dude this aint a meeting We speak our mind when we choose to.

Sincerely,

District Overbeer

kaykay_mp

***leaves to go get some buttered popcorn, this is gettin' good!***

laters

kaykay_mp

Big Tex

Big Tex ... let's deal with my topic-related issue first. Maybe you'd like to start a new thread ;)

I was responding to a point you brought out, and while I certainly understand your fear in responding to any point I've made on this thread, since you now prefer to remain on topic I will be glad to assist you by deleting any further hijacking you make in this thread.

One thing you should know about me is that I don't play games. If you want to talk, let's talk. If not, I understand. I only mentioned starting a new thread out of respect for filip. He's raised legitimate concerns that need to be addressed in a mature fashion. I think he deserves that respect. If you don't again, I certainly understand.

Chris

a friend in need

Well feel free dude ... ask and answer all you want. If you want to do all the asking and answering, you don't need me at all. I'll sit back and watch you all go at it.

lisaBObeesa

lisaBObeesa ... thanks for presenting all that information. It all sounds good on paper. Terrific if you can carry it out. In the end though, each of us is responsible for our parenting skills and hope for the best in the end.

I think love is the main ingredient ... and kids know if they are loved. Even if a parent does all the wrong things ... kids know if they are loved. I happen to think Filip's father loves him. He may have anger control issues ... but who of you don't have any flaws?

Guess what? Love is not enough. I have a parent who loves me and my siblings. And he really messed us all up because he was a hyper-critical, controlling, AUTHORITARIAN, asshole who did not allow us to to have our own minds, express our own beliefs, or even our own feelings.

As a result, I am an emotionally and socially crippled adult...who often lives in a lot of pain.

But he loves us.

Sorry, but NOT good enough.

You are right, each of us is responsible for our parenting. My dad did not see any need to learn anything about bringing up children because he thought he already knew it all. Too bad for me and my siblings. Me, I'm hitting the books.

a friend in need

lisaBObeesa ... at the risk of someone jumping in before I get a chance to answer you ... I'll type fast.

OK ... I don't have all the answers ... I thought love would be enough. Obviously your experience tells me that isn't so. If nothing else, don't pass this type of parenting on.

It IS too bad for you and your siblings. If you can get past it ... go for it. Sorry to open up old wounds.

Urgent! Need help - I told my parents.

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