The continuing saga of being in love with a Witness

by starcrossedpimp 33 Replies latest jw experiences

  • codeblue
    codeblue

    Welcome to JWD:

    I am so sorry you are going thru such heartbreak. I must comment on something you said:

    We both know that we still love each other and that we deserve to be together, but can this religion be stronger than true love?????

    The answer is the religion is a "cult"...Cult's have a great hold on people.

    If you haven't read Steve Hassan's: "Combatting Cult Mind Control"...please do so...

    CodeBlue

  • anuva
    anuva

    you buy out the time and avoid Direct confrontation with PARENTS ..by start playing games with them , through the way they WANT ....ie start a PSEUDO bible study ...but i tell you this that this study has great elements of mind control, so you will need to sterlise yourself, by true information when you are into it, otherwise the chances are that they may SUCK you with their LOVE BOMBING ...and others....

    SEEING the LOVE and AFFECTION that you two seems to have , you should give your best shot before you say , ' i lost to JWs, my true love '

    you buy out time, keep asking and discussing QUESTIONS with your Gf......but rememebr only Gf....and As soon as she turns above 18 ...... ..depending upon what she says ....YOU can HELP her OUT OF CRUEL position ....

    but till GF is not 18 , you cannot risk further direct confrontation with PARENTS....

    play ...MIND GAMES WITH PARENTS....make them beleive you r intersted in what they feel "TRUTH"...and use this time ..(of course till GF turns 18 plus) to strengthen your LOVE and AFFECTION bonds .......and

    when the D day comes ...

    you know what to do ..

    love and peace

    anuva

  • rebel8
    rebel8

    My advice is a little different. I was a JW girl in a similar situation when I left.

    A lot of JWs secretly question the religion but may never act on their doubts. Your GF has acted on hers in the past, and I suspect she is still having those doubts, since she is crying so much and driving by your house. I mean, according to the JW beliefs, she should be relieved and happy that she broke it off with you. Why the tears? Why the driving by your house? To me, that shows a longing for you rather than happiness that she broke it off.

    If she transfers to another store, moves away, or otherwise totally eliminates all contact with you, then that's a signal for you to give up on her. If she hasn't done that yet, try to be kind to her and let her know regularly that you miss her, still love her, and believe you two were meant to be together. Avoid being pushy about it, as that will just push her back towards the JWs. Given time, she may come around and find the courage to leave the organization for you. She may not. The ball is in her court now. Only time will tell.

    I'm not saying to hold a candle in hope out forever, but maybe for a while to see what happens.

  • OldSoul
    OldSoul
    a friend in need: Can you be the bigger person and let go?

    If you want scriptural proofs of any Jehovah's Witness teachings, don't ask "a friend in need": http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/9/84617/1.ashx

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