Having an affair acceptable in your religion?

by antimarriagewrecker 30 Replies latest jw experiences

  • peggy
    peggy

    This is a frustrating post for me. On the one hand, you assume that nothing will be done. That this "witness" would be protected before the woman who is complaining. Day after day, I hear about ones who are quick to punish. But OH...they may not punish this ONE. BULL! RAT on her you say. SHE deserves to be shunned! All from one post. No facts, just a post. Immediately the WTS will handle this wrong!

    I have learned that there is BAD in ALL religion! BAD people in every walk of life. Good and bad even in this forum. There is good and bad even with the Witnesses! You take a bad experience of this person and turn it into another WTS blunder, with no real facts!

    Is that really fair?

  • LittleToe
    LittleToe

    Peggy:The truth is the whole process is inconsistent. It's a crap-shoot, depending on how liberal/hardline the body of Elders is.

    You have to admit that it's not exactly normal behaviour for a witness woman to go stalking a "worldly" married man...

    I don't know where you get the idea that a blunder has occurred. As far as the reporting goes we have a hit'n'run poster, who seems to be bringing something to light that is likely unknown to the congregation. It's a bit difficult for them to deal with something they don't know about, even with "spirit-directed appointed men

    Where are you trying to direct your angst? Coz at the moment it's exploding everywhere and splattering all over the cyber-walls. Ya know that Simon's only gonna get tetchy if he has to remove MORE stains!!!

    (((hugs)))

  • Incense_and_Peppermints
    Incense_and_Peppermints

    are you sure she's a witness? she may have used that as a ruse to initiate contact with your husband. in any case, i would definitley get in touch with her kingdom hall and tell them what she is doing. but the best thing to do is talk to your husband and ask him why he permits this excahnge -- he's not a child, after all.

  • antimarriagewrecker
    antimarriagewrecker

    Wow... Thank you for the reply and great suggestions! I guess I wasn't too clear about the situation... My husband and this JW lady, Clarise, work together. My husband told me that she has been sending him email that are not appropriate and calling him. I asked him to call her and let her know on the phone in front of me, then he did. It was very clear that he expressed that he does not wish to have or establish any friendship or more relationship with her. He told her that she is just a co-worker and nothing else. Yet, she continues the behavior. After I called her and told her not to respect my husband's wish, she said she can do whatever she wants to do and it's none of my business. IT IS MY BUSINESS!!! I do have all the copies of the email and I am requesting the phone company for incoming phone call list. I know someone said on the post it's not my business, but we are married and it bothers me. Then he respect my wish and told her that he does not wish to have any relationship with her, but just as a co-worker. That is why I posted here to see if I get any help to report this woman. My husband said she is very into this religion and continue to talk about it with him. She keeps books and etc... He had mentioned about her behavior to his bosses, but they are too afraid that she may uses her religion and say "the company is discriminating her because of her belief." So there... Not help from the work. I am going to take the all the documents and report her to the King Hall (?). See what happens. I shall let you know the result once I find out... Thank you very much all for your help!

  • peggy
    peggy

    LittleToe,

    For almost forty years I have seen and felt JUDGEMENT. I have seen and experienced inconsistancy. I have also seen love, goodness, justice, mercy. I know what it is to have lies told. I know what it is to have stories fabricated. As I said, this is one post, with an interesting complaint against a supposed "witness".

    I for one am sick of the injustice in life. I sat with a friend today who went to Canada to be baptized in the Greek Orthadox Church to gain the approval of her future in-laws. I realized that injustice, arrogance, and predudice is abounding everywhere! I want all to be fair! To look at each situation with open minds and open hearts! For isn't it our complaint that the WTS has tried to close ours!

    I accept your hug.

    Peg

  • Incense_and_Peppermints
    Incense_and_Peppermints
    After I called her and told her not to respect my husband's wish, she said she can do whatever she wants to do and it's none of my business

    ok, she sounds crazy. and very un-jw-like. she obviously has the hots for your husband. if it were me, i would go to my husband's workplace, then sneak over to her desk and leave the stack of emails and call history on her desk, telling her "if you don't stop immediately, i'm going to deliver another set of documents just like this to your kingdom hall, beyatch".

  • peggy
    peggy

    One more point LittleToe, I told my daughter today, I don't believe that the spirit appoints men. Men appoint men!

    I am changing everyday! Nothing feels familar. I hope you will be patient while I experience my transformation!

    Open hearts......open minds! Hugs!

    Peg

  • LittleToe
    LittleToe

    Hi Peg,

    I told my daughter today, I don't believe that the spirit appoints men. Men appoint men!

    Having been on the inside of that process, as an Elder, I can assure you you have come to the right conclusion.

    I am changing everyday! Nothing feels familar. I hope you will be patient while I experience my transformation!

    We've been there, and can only assure you that our hearts go out to you. It's a confusing time. Prior to leaving the WTS I wrote the following, and wonder if it strikes a chord with you:
    http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/27/14988/1.ashx

    If I were to give you a single piece of advice it would be "be patient with yourself". You have as long as you need, especially since the JW Armageddon isn't looking like coming anytime soon!

    Open hearts......open minds! Hugs!

    (((hugs)))

    Ross.

  • LittleToe
    LittleToe

    AntiMarriageWrecker:
    Since you have the evidence, is there a case for "sexual harrassment"?
    She can hardly class that as being religious discrimination.

  • frenchbabyface
    frenchbabyface

    ok ... If your husband is truthfull ... you shouldn't care AT ALL (actually it's all about you and him ). Don't lose your time and energy on people who doesn't worth it (da girl or ur man).

    As for it is not your business !!! Well ... what a bitch !!! You shouldn't lose any time on her, she's fucked up ... trust your husband as far as you can ...

    As for the company : you're husband got proofs that she is harrassing him, and I don't think that people are allowed to bother their coworker with their religion, or libido at their workplace . (If she was my employee I would fired her ! PERIOD) now something more fun could be done ... MAKE FUN OF HER in COMPARING HER BEHAVIOR comparring to HER RELIGION (as far as you have proof) ... till she quit annoying people, or quit the job (she don't care about people lets see if she cares about herself) ... I wouldn't even bother get in touch with her religious mentors.

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