Hey Justin, yours was a very interesting post. I'm not sure which side of the fence I am on (to use that metaphor). I cannot bring myself to stop believing in a creator, but I am riddled with doubts about who or what that creator might be. I like the approach taken by Susan Jeffers (of Feel the Fear & Do It Anyway fame). In her more recent book, Embracing Uncertainty, she discusses the word, syat, used by the Jains of India. It roughly means, "To the best of my knowledge at this time". In other words, as humans our knowledge and learning are not only progressive but also limited. It takes humility to say, "It just don't know for sure; but this is my best guess at this time...etc"
I feel such relief when, after I've struggled to better comprehend some concept or idea, I let go of the need to be absolutely certain about it. Belief is seldom, if ever, a matter of self-discipline - and if it is, it doesn't say much about the belief. Yet, my experience and observation as a JW was that they seemed too scared to think through the implications of Watchtower teachings and had this unhealthy need to always be right and to shut the door on acknowledging other points of view.
I like what you said about non-believers being as prone to dogmatism as are believers. It recalls some thoughts I had a while ago when creationists and evolutionists slogged it out in our local newspaper: "Spare me from people who are so convinced they are right that they cannot listen accurately to what their "opponents" are saying." To me, it is so sad that people relegate beliefs to such a high place in their lives that it leads them to belittle and de-humanize their fellow human beings.
Am I concerned about this tendency to elevate one's own firm views and denegrate all others? In a way I am, but I don't think my role in life is to do anything about it - because that could easily lead me to a kind of inverted pride: the dubious notion that others need to consider my point of view in order for them to accurately think matters through. No, been there, done that. Sometimes it's totally cool to leave the believers and non-believers to their interminable "arguing". On the other hand, it may not be "arguing": I'm open to the possibility that forums such as this one can be a very useful forum for exchanging views and I'm even open to modifying my views.