Just an update on my previous thread.As you know, my mother in law who is a JW, asked me to conduct the funeral for my father in law.I am disassociated. Apparently, the elders wrote to the society and had a meeting today. The outcome is that noone is allowed to come to the funeral, not even close friends of my mother in law from the hall. If they do, then they will lose privileges. So now, not only does my mother in law have to deal with the death of her husband of 45 yrs, but also has to deal with the fact that none of her so called friends will show up at the funeral.
'BY THIS ALL WILL KNOW THAT YOU ARE MY DISCIPLES, BY THE LOVE YOU HAVE AMONG YOURSELVES!'
If that is a measure of true christianity, then JW's are about as far away from christian discipleship as it is possible to get!
How about if you and your mother in law concoct a little white lie. Get her to tell the elders she has changed her mind, and SHE is making all the arrangements. If they ask if YOU will be attending, she can lie again and say OF COURSE NOT. If I were her, I would personally invite each friend that matters to the funeral. A lovely card would be a nice touch. Of course, the elders would not get one.
It will then be up to each member's conscience if they want to REMAIN in the funeral when they find out you are prominently in attendance.
As farkel would say, the dipf***s deserve what they get. Unlike farkel, I do believe in ultimate divine justice, so I hope those elders get a taste of their own reward at their funerals.
Please accept the condolences to you and your family from our family, Me, Gina, Zach, and Sierra. I'm sorry for your loss, and sorry that during this time the organization was able to put together such a terrible official position. Sick, sick, sick. At least they don't leave us with any lingering doubts about our decision to abandon them.
I believe a "Letter to the Editor" of your local newspaper is now in order... better yet, contact the Minister at the largest, most influential church in town and use his contacts to spread word of this heartless and unchristian conduct.
I'm sorry for your loss, very sorry. I think your father-in-law would be absolutely disgusted if he knew how evil and heartless your M-I-L's congregation is being when their support is needed most.
My condolences to you and your mother for your loss. I would do what some of the others suggested and get the word out to as many people in the community on how your mother is being treated by this cult.
Sorry to hear about the situation. Condolences to your family.
I had a similar situation - the entire cong boycotted my Mom's funeral last year - but it was all done behind closed doors - and I am neither Df'd or DA'd -
"by this all will know you are my disciples, IF you have love among yourselves' - what hypocrites and such hatred they show -
I have still not gotten over it - don't know if I will - the hateful bastards!
I am sorry for the loss of your father in law . Please give your wife our best wishes . It is hard enough to cope at these times without any further added pressures.
Knowing the Organisation as we do, i am not surprised that they have taken this stance. To have the cong sit and listen to a dissasociated person , even pray with him, is just not win the game plan. I am surprised that they had to write to the Society. Of course it is wrong, heartless and callous , with no thought for the feelings of your Mother in Law and your wife - but we are not dealing with normal people or common sense. We are dealing wioth a bunch of rule - bound Pharisees who can only see a black and white view of the world
