by chuckyy 20 Replies latest jw experiences
chuck
perhaps u should offer to step down for them. Is your mother in law an active JW? b.c if she is I doubt she would have asked u to do the service. I hate these people too, but for everyones sake, perhaps it would be best to step aside and let them have a funeral. Your MIL is suffering greatly, this will hurt her so much if no one comes to the funeral.
It is only a suggestion, and I don't know all the circumstances, but sometimes it is better for other people to just step down.
weds
Sad, twisted group. I would say either: 1) step back, show your love for your MIL, but don't hide your feelings of bewilderment over such teachings. It might be the time for her to question, too, when she gets past this.
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2) Offer to your MIL that you will do whatever she wishes, but that you would like to say some special words about your FIL at his service if she is open to that.
chuckyy,
I just read your recent threads on this board. Please accept my condolences for your FIL's recent death.
It appears to me that the reason that the Society is forbidding all JW's from attending the funeral is because your MIL refused to take "the loving instruction" (tm) of that elder to shun her DA'd daughter and family - and yes this does include her own grandchildren. According to their viewpoint, she is being "disobedient" to "Jehovah's . . um 'loving' . . . Organization" and needs to be disciplined for HER actions. In their sick way of reasoning - how much better to show 'their love and concern' for your MIL by NOT attending the funeral of her non-JW husband. The elders think that by metting out this sort of 'discipline' they will be able to achive their goal and get her to obey their instruction to shun her daughter.
It is all about MIND-CONTOL! But in reality, this may just be what your MIL needs to join you in leaving that FREAKING MIND CONTROL KULT!!!
NewLight2
Chuckyy and Mrs C
I am so very sorry to hear of the awful way your family are being treated. As others have so rightly said, they are heartless, can you imagine Jesus acting like that.
our thoughts are with you and your family
Twink
You have my thoughts and prayes. The treatment of your family is unconscienable. Do they think this kind of treatment will make any one want to come back?
Chuckyy
I am so sorry that you and your family are having to cope with such abhorrent behavior at such a sad time. If we lived closer we would come to give our support at the funeral.
We had a similar situation to cope with for my son wedding, obviously far less traumatic but it still caused an upset.
Dont be too hasty in stepping back from participating in the service etc especially as your MIL has asked you to do this. She must have very good reasons for it.
Take care all of you
Anglise
Hi everyone and thanks somuch for your support
My first reaction was to step back and I asked my motherinlaw to get somebody else who was a JW to do the service. However..she just didnt want that...she insisted that I do it even if it meant her close friends would not be there. By the way....since i told you about the elders decision earlier, 2 active witnesses including 1 M.S have called and said that they are coming and dont give a damn about the consequences. They are good people.
CHUKKY
What a sad bunch of pharisees they turned out to be Chukky.
I can't be with you on the day, but I will be there in spirit and will be thinking you and your family.
Love
Chris
It is not the JW's - Any Elders - Or GB, privilege to decide who have to be and lead anyonce funeral (where is this written please ??? !!!) ...
If your mother in law was not JW and/or that she didn't take any precaution to ask if you can lead the funeral ... would those supposed JW friends be there ? SO WHERE IS THE DIFFERENCE ? ... they want monopoly on funerals ceremony or what ??? HOW SICK !
Well now you know : DON'T ASK anything before and MAKE YOUR POINT WITH THEM AFTER where is it written in the bible please and what is this monopoly all about ? Time for the WTBS to not trying to substitute itself to GOD as they can't show any love and tend to add too much stupid burdens on peoples shoulder (live is hard enough) ... I guess it would be more important to get rid of pedophiles that they protect in the name of god (NOW THAT'S A PRIVILEGE) than getting too much into peoples personnal business where no rules should take rank on yours as nothing should hurt anybody. THEY ARE SICK BASTARDS !
Hope your mother in law will get out of JWLAND soon !
This is awful! I'm so sorry!!! Everybody that knew the person should attend the person's funeral. It's such a sad time for the family in general. I'm so very sorry.
DY
