Can you ever forgive your family for shunning you?

by jeanniebeanz 25 Replies latest jw friends

  • whyamihere
    whyamihere

    If they started to talk to me, THAT would piss me off. LOL

    I am a lover not a shunner! Kisses Blow Kiss

    Brooke


  • jeanniebeanz
    jeanniebeanz
    If they started to talk to me, THAT would piss me off.

    Yeah, I've thought that way a time or two myself...

    J

  • jwbot
    jwbot

    Yeah, I could, and I am...only know since they are not shunning me. But when they were currently shunning, I was moving on and ready to forgive them then too. But, I am more cautious, and if they start more shunning crap again, maybe it will not hurt so bad.

  • upside/down
    upside/down

    what family....

    blood IS NOT thicker than water...

    Just as being a sperm donor doesn't make you a father.... well you get the idea.

    u/d (of the I decide who's family class)

  • Jez
    Jez

    They don't need my forgiveness. If there is a higher being, well, that is who they should be worried about.

    Jez

  • HadEnuf
    HadEnuf

    Depends on the amount and type of groveling they do.

    My life has really been less stressful with them OUT of it. That's a hard one (question) though to answer. I don't think they'll ever stop shunning me unless they leave the JW's. I don't think that's gonna happen in my lifetime.

    Cathy L.

  • Purza
    Purza
    I do not care. Not having them in my life is not even apparent....

    That is a very sad statement. But what is even more depressing? I find it to be true.

    I think everyone can be forgiving. However, I choose not to forgive my brother for calling the elders on me without any "proof" except his speculation.

    I have pity for my parents as they don't know any better -- and I probably would forgive them. I am inviting them to my wedding, but I secretly hope they don't come -- it would just add more stress on me. They are not a part of my life anymore and I really don't miss them.

    Purza

  • jeanniebeanz
    jeanniebeanz
    If there is a higher being, well, that is who they should be worried about.

    Well then, do you think it'll fly with God that a group of people calling themselves Christian, as opposed to Paulian, cuts off their family members in such an unscriptural fashion?

    J

  • AlanF
    AlanF

    Certainly not while they're doing it, and certainly not without a sincere apology and repentance.

    AlanF

  • Gretchen956
    Gretchen956

    I already have. The reason? I did it too. I was totally brainwashed myself. How can I hate someone for doing something that I did myself when I was as deluded as they are? Besides, as Gary said, they are doing me a favor. Not all of us grew up in families that we were close to. My family was very dysfunctional. There is much less stress in my life with them not in it. Still, I do not hold it against them, any of it. Because they truly don't know any better.

    Having said that, it took me YEARS to get to that point.

    Sherry

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