by GetBusyLiving 32 Replies latest watchtower bible
GBL, Im so sorry you are going through this, I dont know what advice to offer, but just be there for your Mom, she needs you. What a tough situation you are in. I love my grandma dearly, despite the fact that she upholds the WT Society. My other grandma died nearly 2 years ago so quickly from cancer, she refused all treatment and was dead within 3 weeks. Im so sorry, and hope your grandma's remaining days are pain free.
Dave
(((GBL)))
I am so sorry to hear about your nan.
When I was 14, they gave my Mom 1 week to live, finally figured out she had cancer (after being sick for 2 years)...She lived her last 3 weeks in the hospital.
My Mom was a JW and raised me that way. I can honestly say that some of those teachings helped me buffer her death. Like knowing when she dies, she is out of pain. As you know cancer patients endure a lot of pain. The resurrection belief helped as well. I was so close to my Mom, and I wanted to see her again.
As for you and your Mom, although your belief systems are different (you are agnostic)....just listening to your Mom and letting her talk will greatly help her. Also, after your nan passes....Your Mom may want to still talk about her...let her do it. It is her way of grieving and healing.
I can honestly say as a JW...I never grieved properly. JW's don't encougrage proper grieving. There are times that I sit and just cry that I lost my Mom when I was so young.
I know this is a very stressful time in your life and please know that many positive thoughts are heading your way and for your Mom too (I sure hope the JW's don't take advantage of this highly emotional time in her life)
hugs,
CodeBlue
(((((GBL)))))
Sorry to hear about your grandmother and your mother's sadness and stress.
As you said, we are all headed that way, and we cry for ourselves.
Bryan
Have You Seen My Mother
Sorry to hear about your nan and know that we are there with you and here when you need us.((((((hugs)))))
((((((GBL))))))) I'm so sorry. You're in my thoughts and prayers.
Coffee
Thanks so much for all the posts you guys. I know this situation isnt unique at all..I can deal with this stuff alright its just I'm concerned for my mom. They all have such a warped out view of the afterlife I can tell how emotionally and mentally draining this experience is going to be for her.
GBL
GBL,
Your sense of sadness and loss comes across in your post. I'm sorry you have to deal with this situation. Losign a loved one is so hard. When you add religious differences into it as well it becomes almost unbearable. Please take the advice already given and make sure you have someone to confide your feelings in. I feel that you're doing the right thing being supportive of your mother. She needs someone to be non-judgemental and supportive and not trying to push their agenda.
You're a good son.
I'm so sorry GBL.
Your love shines through sorrow and even guilt. I'm sure your folks do appreciate your honesty deep inside, even though they might not recognise it now.
Sometimes we all have to face harsh realities, and then we all find unsuspected resources to cope. Being true and loving is never wrong.
Take care.
(((GBL)))
Your sorrow is our sorrow
Let us sorrow together
Our strength is your strength
Let us hold together
We are all manifestations of one Essence
Searching for Itself through many eyes
Reaching out to Itself through many hearts
Remembering, though we are many, we are one
May my thoughts, my love, and my tears mingle with yours and be of some comfort to you...
~Merry
That was the sweetest poem Merry. Thanks so much for that.
GBL
