Well take sex for an example.......
I think about it and want it probably as much as a guy. Trust me. I know I have a male mind in how I think. I have been told that many times.
Brooke
EVERYTHING YOU ALWAYS WANTED TO KNOW
by Terry 78 Replies latest jw friends
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Pistoff
Do we choose our parents in disguise?
Some years ago I read a book by Harville Hendricks, "Getting the Love You Want", and the focus of it is that our hidden personality does have a lot to do with mate selection.
We might be seeking someone with our own repressed traits.
I recommend the book; it helped me a great deal to understand who I am and why I have made some of the choices I have. -
FlyingHighNow
I've been married 18 years to a rather cold person. For six months once I slept on the couch just to see how long it would take her to "want" something from me. I think it may have happened twice in that six months.
Terry did you know the same thing happened to some of us women? News: some women want to make love daily or more and their men could care less about sex. I would love to see an end to this kind of stereotyping (That men want sex every half hour and women could care less if they ever have it). Not all men fit this stereotype and I know that certainly not all women fit your description.
Your wife sounds unhappy in your relationship. That may be the real problem. She could be taking care of herself and keeping it a deep,dark secret. I know women who have no use for men, though they are straight, and just take care of their own needs. They don't want all the problems of a relationship.
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Terry
Terry did you know the same thing happened to some of us women? News: some women want to make love daily or more and their men could care less about sex. I would love to see an end to this kind of stereotyping (That men want sex every half hour and women could care less if they ever have it). Not all men fit this stereotype and I know that certainly not all women fit your description
I think with men it is a question of really irregular habits such as drinking, smoking, drugs, no exercise and a general rundown condition. Otherwise, we are built like a mousetrap.
One widdle nibble and SNAP!
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tetrapod.sapien
TS: so, are we (homo sapiens and our technologies) really the only cause of the earth becoming warmer? or is the earth in one of it's natural cycles, and we are only slightly moving it along faster with pollution?
so, anyone?
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FlyingHighNow
Terry did you know the same thing happened to some of us women? News: some women want to make love daily or more and their men could care less about sex. I would love to see an end to this kind of stereotyping (That men want sex every half hour and women could care less if they ever have it). Not all men fit this stereotype and I know that certainly not all women fit your description
I think with men it is a question of really irregular habits such as drinking, smoking, drugs, no exercise and a general rundown condition. Otherwise, we are built like a mousetrap.One widdle nibble and SNAP!
And with women, don't you think we can have the same problems that affect us? Add to that the fact that many men are selfish and notoriously bad lovers. Now if a woman has only had one or two or three or 20 bad lovers, then she might think she is the problem and resign herself to her toys. I can't count the women I have heard joke about their vibrators in comparison to the men they have been with.
The woman who has been lucky enough to be with a good lover and who doesn't have other factors stealing her libido will mostly likely SNAP! as quickly as any man. What do you say girls?
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Chia
But, I'm a "ladies-go-first" kind of fellow.
I don't do my thang until your thang is done.
If I'm understanding you correctly, you'd be waiting forever with me then.
I'm not sure exactly what the deal is with me, but I cannot have an orgasm from any kind of contact with a man. I don't know why. Give me a toy, and I'm good, I can have several orgasms. And I am in a loving relationship, I love my boyfriend, but it just doesn't work for me. I've contemplated some type of therapy for it. It isn't that he's doing anything wrong or that I don't enjoy the sex, I just can't have an orgasm. And it gets worse if he asks, "What am I doing wrong?" Or, "What can I do better?" Then I just feel more pressure, and I feel worse about it.
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bikerchic
I'm not sure exactly what the deal is with me, but I cannot have an orgasm from any kind of contact with a man. I don't know why. Give me a toy, and I'm good, I can have several orgasms. And I am in a loving relationship, I love my boyfriend, but it just doesn't work for me. I've contemplated some type of therapy for it. It isn't that he's doing anything wrong or that I don't enjoy the sex, I just can't have an orgasm. And it gets worse if he asks, "What am I doing wrong?" Or, "What can I do better?" Then I just feel more pressure, and I feel worse about it.
Oprah had a show on yesterday about this. I just caught the last half of the show but from my own experience and what was reinerated on the show it's all about pleasuring yourself. Forget your partner. What makes you feel good........do that! Works everytime! You want pleasure (the big O) while with your partner pretend you are by yourself since that seems to work for you and your toy times, lol.
whatever gets you through the night, it's alright"
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FlyingHighNow
whatever gets you through the night, it's alright"
Kate, you've got that song going in my head now, such an energetic song by two greats.
Chia, important thing: you can think yourself right out of it by putting too much pressure on you and worrying about what he is thinking. Kate's right. He can have an orgasm easily? So why not concentrate on you? Like she says, pretend you are pleasuring yourself and that he is the toy. Move the way you need to. Fantasize. Fantasy can push you over the edge. The psychological pressure you are feeling isn't helping.
Another important thing for a woman to do is to completely get rid of the notion that you are somehow evil if you enjoy sex. Society has crammed that notion down our throats. Once a woman can embrace the idea that women who enjoy sex are wonderful, she will enjoy sex in a fuller way.
Something else for everyone to keep in mind is that birth control pills, antidepressants and some other medications can numb a woman's erogenous zones. Alcohol can kill the O as well as painkillers can.
Women who don't like their husbands or partners anymore won't be interested in them sexually, usually. You can love someone and not like them. Who wants to be touched by someone who makes you sick?
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RichieRich
Women who don't like their husbands or partners anymore won't be interested in them sexually, usually. You can love someone and not like them. Who wants to be touched by someone who makes you sick?
I've noticed this also. Sex is a mental thing for women, while it is physical for us men. In my experiences, I have noticed that the more comfortable we become with each other, the easier it is for things to do uh... do their thing.
Chia- do what you need to... If the toy works- let him use it on you... He won't mind...
MY QUESTIONs:
If lesbians hate men so much, why do they dress and act like them?
Why are people so afraid of relationships with fat people?
Why does it matter how it humans came to be? Shouldn't we be looking forward?
Why are all "good Christians" assholes?
Why do I always get caught, when no one else does?
Why do younger black men typiccaly insist on oral and anal sex? Whats their problem with birth control?
Why can I not wear overalls and be treated with respect?