just got df'd (page 4)

stillajwexelder

Welcome. I am sorry to hear you have been DFd - it is painful for most but some do actually feel relief after. Stick around on this board you will find friends and truth and support. Many have been through similar situations to yourself - very few will have been through identical situations because rarely are two situations identical.

ESTEE

((((Susu)))))

It's hard at first ... I got myself df'd, too. At first, I thought it's all a big misake. Then as some time went by I realized it was a blessing because if I didn't get df'd I might not have left. And yet leaving was the healthy thing to do. So now I thank the elders for their decision to df me, because I soooooo didn't belong there anymore. I am much happier now, out and free. I am loving my new healthy life.

You'll be fine.

And by the way ... I'm reeeeeally proud of you!!!!

Love and light

ESTEE

Lehaa

Hi susu,

Welcome to the board.

Know how you're feeling I was DF'ed about 13 months ago. It's terrible at first but with time you realise it's the best thing that could have happened to you.

Take time to heal then go enjoy your life, it is a much happier friendlier place than the borg makes it out to be.

For the first time in my life i'm truly happy, I'm now with a man that truly loves me and my kids, I have a great group of friends that I can rely on and an adopted family that is fantastic.

Hang in there it is really scary at first but once you get used to it it's wonderful.

Leah.

Carmel

Welcome susu! I was Df'd at age 15 and frankly it was the best thing that ever happened to me. Looking back, as hard as it was, it opened up new vistas and wonderful opportunities to learn more about the world. So much that the JUUs told me was a distortion in an attempt to keep me and others in the closed circle. Well, life is wonderful and in time you will find that for your self.

Hope you stick around and add to the growing multitude that is seeing the real "new light".

warm regards,

carmel

moanzy

Welcome Susu, so glad you feel ok to come to this forum. When I was a JW and first started checking apostate sites, I used to look behind me for demonz.

I was so scared! I found out that these sites are really about getting true info out to the public and those that have been abused or treated badly by religion. Everyone is kind and supportive here and pretty much know what it is like to be disowned by everyone you love or know. It can get lonely at times. This place will help you not feel so alone and give you validation for what you are genuinely feeling.

Hope you find good friends here.

Moanzy

Frog

HI Susu, Its so nice to have you hear, although its sad that it has to be under such circumstances. Most of us have been where you are, and we can all relate to the same mixed feelings and confusion that you must be going through. Don't ever feel guilty for posting here, you're not an apostate for posting here, none of us are. Take what you need from here to heal yourself. It's such a tough road to walk, but with time, and it does take some time you will start to feel more like yourself than you ever did. I wish we could help speed up the process for you, but be patient and you will build for yourself a new life, a better life if you decide in time that's what you want.

Take good care of yourself, and don't let people who don't really have your interests at heart make you loose too much sleep. There are really good caring and loving people in the world, if you open yourself up to it you will start to meet some and they will become your best friends and support.

Feel free to message me anytime. Take care, luv from Frog

moanzy

Sorry Frog, didn't mean to sound like this was a" horrible apostate" site. Just according to JW rules this would be classified as an apostate site.

Moanzy

Alwayshere

Susu, Welcome and it will take time but you are better off now. If you just visit these sites and do research you will see the WTS is a cult. I only wish it hadn't taken me so long to find it out. Most of us have lost our family to it. But it's sure nice not having to go to mrrtings, field service. and assemblies In time, maybe some of us will see our family getting out.We can hope anyway.I have been out about 2 years and I have a hard time some days but try to stay busy.Wish you all the luck and you have a lot who cares for you on this board.

rebel8

Hi susu,

What's interesting is that Jesus didn't shun Judas. Makes you wonder.

The first thing to keep in mind is that people who left the JWs are not all evil, demonized "apostates" who have an axe to grind because they were thrown out of the religion. Many of us left because we were disillusioned about the unchristian behavior we observed, the teachings that don't make sense, or a general feeling that this is not the way to a happy life. Some were DFd, some were not. We are not all sex-crazed druggies, either. We are normal people. Talking to ex-JWs does not make you a bad person or a target for execution at Armageddon.

HappyDad

Hi susu and welcome to the JWD forum.

Sorry you are going through this emotional torture but you will get more "unconditonal love " from this forum than you ever could have experienced in a Kingdom Hall.

Stick around, make friends and be a friend. You have only scratched the surface by speaking of your situation. Good advice has already been given as to reading Cricis of Conscience by Ray Franz and checking out the Silent Lambs web site. I also recommend freeminds.org, one of the better informational sites out there.

As you learn the real truth about the "truth", you will be dumbfounded and your jaw will drop. You may even get numb, but once you realize that YOU are important, it will all fit together like a puzzle.

Again I say welcome and know you will find happiness,

HappyDad (ex elder)

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