by greendawn 32 Replies latest social current
"Just a hint to lurking JWs and still attending JWs, if only one person saw you, admit to nothing."
That's a good policy, Blondie, but it was my experience and observation that the elders usually keep that card up their sleeve---------------you don't know who turned you in or how many. So if you vehemently deny any wrongdoing, and they have more than one witness, it's the fast track to disfellowshipping. Further advice to lurking JW's: Proceed with caution.
David
I was tattled on by a roomate who said I bought beer that he could drink. Meaning, I bought the beer, put it in the refridgerator and he then drank it while I was gone. Somehow it's my fault. But what I love about ALL of these stories is that what happened to the "First go to your brother/sister and tell him of your concern, so that person may go to the elders himself/herself"???? No, now it's just turn them in and run and hide.
Exactly EvilForce. That's how I felt about my "friend". Never mind that if at any point this "friend" felt stumbled, they could've easily said, "I don't feel comfortable with this conversation." But they listened to every word and then ran and told the elders.
Thanks for the words of caution. I'm getting tired of hiding though, I really am. I don't want to get DFd, but if it happens, I will have to accept it and move on with my life. I am really tired of them controlling me like I'm a puppet.
Evilforce I didn't catch that thing about the beer it sounds as if it was wrong to buy and drink beer.
Chia if you are fading are you wisely using your time to form relationships with ex JWs and other people, before you totally back out as I understand you intend to do?
Nothing wrong with alcohol as such, it was that I was 21 and he was 20. So it was "underage" drinking. But he blamed that he fornicated with his girlfriend on the fact that he got drunk on the beer I bought and left in the refrigerator.
I don't plan on doing anything. Yes, I already have friends outside the org, a boyfriend, I'm going to college and all the other good stuff. But I do not intend to DA myself. If the elders see fit to find something to try me on, good for them. I'm not meeting with any committees or anything. My contact with my Witness family is pretty limited already, so, so be it.
I think I'm using my time pretty wisely, but that's all relative. I'm happy with the way things are right now, and as for the tough times ahead, I'm not going to stress out about that until it happens.
loving the irony ...evil
not only did he commit fornication but then blamed it on being drunk on beer that he stole
dont tell me....he didnt get df-ed did he
Of course he didn't get d/f'd. He got off lighter than I did. Stupid, stupid.
I don't plan on doing anything.
Just remember, chia, that according to WTS doctrine, if you stay over night together, unchaperoned, it is the same is if you DID IT and you can be DF'd.
Just remember, chia, that according to WTS doctrine, if you stay over night together, unchaperoned, it is the same is if you DID IT and you can be DF'd.
Believe me...I've been raised as a Dub. I know the rules. I don't care. I'm not talking to anyone about anything. I've been to a JC. The elders have verbally humiliated me. I owe them nothing. I don't need to tell them anything. If they want to fill in the blanks, fine. I'm not concerned about it. It's not anyone's business what I've done with my boyfriend, where I've gone, or who I've been with. What I meant by "I don't plan on doing anything" was that I'm not going to meet with the elders or voluntarily disassociate myself. It has nothing to do with my relationship with my boyfriend. That line has already been crossed.
