Elders will not marry couple (page 2)

luna2

That shows such a lack of faith on that interfering elder's part. Come the grand and glorius New System isn't aging going to be a thing of the past?

Nathan Natas

Y'KNOW HOW, whenever an elder's advice goes sour, they fall back on "..but he's an imperfect man..."?

THIS IS ONE OF THOSE TIMES.

They should go ahead and get married by a Justice of the Peace and not invite the elders to their wedding celebration. If the elders even BEGIN to try to make trouble, contact Bethel immediately. Leapfrog over the elders and the CO and DO too, if you have to.

Those elders are living up to their "untrained volunteer" reputations!

greendawn

I can't get it, on what do these elders base their objection? Is there a rule against marrying with a substantially older woman? If not why do they meddle in other people's lives?

tijkmo

oh my more age-ism from the elders...some of whom are probably younger than the woman getting married...interesting that it probably wouldnt be a problem if the guy was the older one..esp if he were an elder or a c.o.....

so they may object to allowing it in the hall...so try another hall...or another body of elders

or get an agreeable elder to do it at the house (been there done that)

or go to j.o.p

whatever you do ...you make the decision

they do not have the right, wisdom, or interest in making life decisions for you (the couple getting married)

so make a decision ...stick to it...invite everyone..dont get upset by those that dont come..and dont let them tell you you cant

and live happily ever after

Purza

It was my understanding that if a dub married a non-dub, that was not a disfellowshipping offense. However, the person may be "marked" by people in the congregation. But if they are both dubs and get married by a JOP -- what can they DF them for?

Purza

PS The biggest age difference was when a 25 year old man married a 68 year old widow. I kid you not. When I first met them I thought he was being sweet by sitting next to his grandmother at the meetings.

steve2

Well, all I can say is that, if this couple listen to this elder and don't marry until the stipulated time period has elapsed, they're both kind of proving they're not ready (at least in terms of emotional maturity) to marry regardless of how long they're advised to wait.

freedom96

Once again elders representing the WTS stepping in where they have no business.

TresHappy

When I got married in Jamaica, I had friends tell me my marriage wasn't legal in the United States. Some people....

Siddhashunyata

Sounds like good advice to me. Its not a question of overruling the wishes of the couple, its a question of the elders conscience. If that idea (conscience) is valid , why can't the elders use it as their defense. Afterall , an older woman may tire of "bringing up" her husband.and her young husband may resent his wife's mothering attitude. The odds are against them. Why not give it some time . They can always prove the Elders wrong by marrying elsewhere but what recourse is their for the Elders if they go against their conscience and the marriage fails because of the age and experience difference. Nah, good advice!!

CaptainSchmideo

Reminds me of a Mad Magazine satire of the movie "Summer of '42 ", which had a romance between an older woman and a younger man.

In the movie, she leaves town the morning after they "do it". Leaving him with that special memory, yadayadayada, you know, the kind they only tell in bad screenplays.

In the Mad version, they get married. And the story fades forward to present day, as the character is wrapping up the tale to the reader; "So we got married, I was 17, she 32, back in that summer of '42. And now here I am, 50 years old, and here she is, an old "yeccch" woman of 65."

I hope these two know what they are asking for.

This isn't that schoolteacher and her pupil by any chance, is it?

Elders will not marry couple

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