Boy its hard for teenaged JW's

by skyman 45 Replies latest jw friends

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  Whiskeyjack

  Avi,

  You're right on the money. Anytime an Elder's kid was brought before a JC, it was a different set of standards and rules for them (their buddies on the committee knew they might be in the "hot seat" one day so one back scratched the other). It was a beef among parental publisher friends of my parents though they were very careful about "griping".

  Somebody always had to "go down" but it rarely one of their kids. I've posted elsewhere about how my old man was so fed up about this sort of thing that he kicked up a royal stink all the way to the DO level when the local PO tried to sweep some dirty laundry under the carpet!

  W.
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  Aude_Sapere

  **. Often times if you were'nt an elders kid, or buddies with one, well, you got the shit end of the stick, even if you were putting in time, and giving talks. Anyone else see this, or am i nuts?**
  
  Very good friend of mine had two teenaged girls and an alcoholic, drug-abusing, womanizing husband. She clung so had to the organization and sincerely wanted to help her girls stay in the truth and serve Jehovah. I have NEVER seen a parent so diligent in following the elders advise.
  
  It backfired on her.
  
  I didn't fully believe her reports of how the elders treated her daughters. Until I started reading posts on this site.
  
  Tonight I am literally sick to my stomach about the appalling, inhumane edicts that have been handed out by those idiots. It's downright criminal.
  
  I feel nauseous.
  Good Night.
  -Aude.
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  greendawn

  True teenagers can have a rough time in the JWs because of the special needs they have at this age and which are not met in that society. It is worse for those that don't have both parents in the org especially if their father is not a JW.
  
  Teenagers are kids really that suddenly have to deal with strong sexual impulses that the org wants suppressed under pain of severe sanctions, and they also have to learn a lot about the world, how to relate and find their place in it.
  
  The org's environment is very hostile to this growing process and interferes with it in a very negative and destructive way apparently jehovah's spirit forgot to inspire and direct them them on this issue. They even try to dupe them to forego a university education.
  
  The result is many oppressed-depressed and even suicidal teens. Fortunately many realise the game being played and leave so they can have a normal life.
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  tijkmo

  well it wasnt as if just being an elders kid was enough to get preferential treatment in coatbridge hall in scotland two of the elders had boys who went to the same school the one elders son used to bully the others...because they were small he would put them in the litter bins or hang them on clothes pegs when they all applied to be baptized the one elder refused to go through the questions with the other elders sons so he decided he wasnt going to go through the questions with the other elders son it all got very tedious and childish esp as from that time on they were constantly looking for ways to have a go at each others families skyman..i too was a refuge for all the youngsters in the hall..and surrouding halls but just be careful man..difficult not to get emotionally involved on occasions but it led to my downfall..just saying course no youngsters in the org speak with me now...but just last week some of my fellow students told me that they had enjoyed my being a part of their course this past year cos they were able to talk to me about stuff they didnt with their parents and got an adult perspective on things like drugs sex pregnancy divorce..the usual teenage concerns..many of them are from one parent or no parent families kinda made my day keep up the good work
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  defd

  We try so hard to help them without them knowing what we are doing. If the congregation ever found out we told one of the teenagers the truth about the Society the Elders would hang us from the nearest pole and the teenager would never be able to come and see us.

  Skyman

  Are you hiding what you truely are?(without them knowing what we are doing) Are you embarrased for what you have become?(ever found out we told one of the teen )Sure sounds like it to me. Dont be misled, JEHOVAH KNOWS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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  love2Bworldly

  Skyman--I admire what you are doing. I could really have used good adult mentors when I was a teenager. Don't listen to other posters who are loyal to the BS Society and come on this forum just to annoy people.
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  Balsam

  Skyman,

  You and your wife are valuable to these kids. They need all the help they can find with you. I had a very kindly Elder and his wife help me to make my way out. I still don't know what their stand is on the Society, but I'm sure they do what they can for those who are suffering in the congregation.
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  avishai

  Which is'nt to say it's always a cakewalk for elders kids, either. Some of them get it awfully bad too.
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  GetBusyLiving

  Great work Skyman! Wish I had a friend like you when I was 16, would have helped me realize I wasn't alone understanding that the Org was total bullshit.

  GBL
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  luna2

  My boys and I had to deal with this blackballing by an elder and his sons too after we moved to CT. He was coldly polite to me, but I he wouldn't condescend to speak to my sons, and his sons were downright cruel, rude and dishonest. Other elders did their best to be supportive and I was grateful to them for it, but it wasn't enough to counteract the damage done by this guy.

  So much for showing concern for the fatherless boy and all that rot. Some people are just power-tripping jerks and being an elder gives them a way to act out.

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  Jehovah knows what you're doing too, dfed. Hanging around, reading this seditious material and getting into discussions with apostates is forbidden by the Watchtower, is it not? What would He think of your disobedience in disregarding the directives of His faithful and discreet slave? Aren't you worried that your actions are displeasing to your God?