by Apostanator 22 Replies latest social family
It is disgraceful the way they deliberately try to keep you on an emotional rollercoaster. If you decide to give them a book on cults...can I go with you? They knew my dad.....and probably don't know I'm out. I wonder what the reaction would be...trust me, I've held my own against some pretty arrogant elders. Might be fun...turn the tables a bit...
Coffee
Hey Coffee.... That would be awesome. You sure can go with me. I'm playing it by ear right now, it's all about the timing.
Thanks
Apostanator,
I assume you are DF'd. When my mother was dying my DF'd brother was welcomed into the ranks of the family. It wasn't that he needed to be there to take care of her also, it was because she was on a slow but defiinite track to death due to a failing heart. It took six months for her to die. Even the strongest proponents ot DF'ing were there when he was and treated him no different than others even hugging him genuinely as you would any fellow family member experiencing grief. There was never mention of the Truth nor anything biblical to him. Yes, they have gone back to the usual adherence but learned something in the experience. He isn't the devil they thought, just a guy who was married to an evil, violent, wicked bitch who was a thief and is still in good standing with the congregation. I was very proud of those who treated him with understanding and kindness, its the way it should be. This is probably a testimony to how close and loving our family is to begin with. Also respect for my mom who was so special to us all.
If the problem is that your family is preaching at you, then just tell them that you appreciate the fact that they are not excluding you from showing your Mother due love and care, but please, follow your own rules and stop the spiritual association and dont mention Jehovah or anything to do with spiritual matters. THAT'S THE RULES ANYWAY. That way you can do your part without experiencing all the antagonism.
Maybe that will help shut thier traps.
W.Once
