Being a JW mother, I really don't understand how these women do it. (page 5)

loosie

lol @ Frannie

You got to wonder what were the householders thinking when you came up to their door?

misguided

I doubt many even had time to eat before the meeting

Not just the lack of time to eat...a lack of appetite, too. Too worried about the stress of what would happen with the kids at the meeting.

My JW husband left me and moved in with a woman from his work just days before our 5th baby was born. I found myself getting 5 babies (the oldest wasn't even 6 when the 5th was born) to the KH and FS as the sole purpose in my life. It was like once the meeting was over, I was making plans for the next - their clothes, their hair, the meals for before and after, how to get there, etc. Once (or more times) I was sent home from the FS group because NO ONE wanted to work with me!

I was so lonely, I found meetings and FS the only place I'd have any sort of social life - not being allowed to associate with "worldy" people, and the JW's having no time for a single mom with 5 small kids I think I must have been "marked" as bad association - because I was NEVER invited anywhere.

I had a 6th child when my other youngest child was 4. He was/is challenged mentally, and it was harder for me to "control" him at the meetings. With him being harder to handle, the other's took advantage of it and they, too, became harder to handle. The mother's room had a door to the hall itself, so there was really no place to go when your children cried or became unruly where no one would be bothered by the noise except outside (I live in CANADA...It gets COLD!!). I finally just quit going. I was tormented for a while by my lack of attendance, but my children (oldest is now 17 - I've been "out" for about 5 years) now frequently THANK me for having quit taking them to meetings. I'm glad I did, too.

As for me...when I was 2 my parents asked me why I go to meetings...I think they were expecting a "because I love Jehovah", but instead got the answer "to get a spanking." My parents actually found that humourous.

Rose

acadian

My wife and I raised 3 kids, but I didn't leave the burden with her, we took turns, but what pissed me off the moet wae when it was my turn to change a diaper and there was no place to do it, but I did. the sisters had a room just for mothers with babies. (not fair )

When the kids were young we'd bring goodies for them, to keep them busy,
And when it came to service, I was the one who took the kids. ( wife works saturdays)

I have to admit there were some good times out in service, but I just like to talk to people.

But all in all, 5 meetings a week, 10 hrs or more a month or more, and then aux pioneer twice a yr.
it was tough and a burden, but we did it.

But not no more !!!

Acadian

potleg

Why does the Borg make it hard for mothers and young kids...? Why dont they have special activities and areas for kids so that they would maybe want, and look forward to going to meetings and assemblies?

Tez

We had four children to take. As they got older it got harder, they did not want to be there! and would make all sorts of excuses not to go. I suffered from panic attacks, so they would almost be willing me to have one at KH so they could go home early! If I felt bad before we left then no one would go to the meetings, not even their dad! So the pressure was on me to ensure we all got there, which in turn made the panic attacks worse... Still don't know how I endured for 22 years! and worst of the worse was assemblies! Sitting in tiny football stadium seats (which lets face it were only meant to be sat in for a couple of hours at most!) either in baking hot sun, or wind and rain for 3 or 4 days! TORTURE!!!!

Frannie Banannie

Remember Frannie when all we had to use
were Pampers for disposable diapers. ; They leaked terribly! ; So I brought cloth diapers
to assemblies. ; What a joy! ;

LOL, Juni! I remember very well. My oldest was allergic to the chemicals used to perfume Pampers and I had to use cloth diapers anyway! (blech)

Frannie

Frannie Banannie

You got to wonder what were the householders thinking when you came up to their door?

LOL, Loosie! Probably, "what the *#@% do THEY want?" If ya ask me, it really didn't say much for our gawd's protection, did it?

Frannie

Frannie Banannie

Why does the Borg make it hard for mothers and young kids...? Why dont they have special activities and areas for kids so that they would maybe want, and look forward to going to meetings and assemblies?

Because, Potleg.....it's actually a publishing company assuring the well-being/care and feeding of the heirarchy only. They really don't give a crap about their publishers and their families. While they espouse "loving-kindness" and "intense love for one another," giving these thoughts lip-service ONLY....they actually teach their publishers (by word of mouth...in whispered asides, in back rooms, behind closed doors, and at times, even from the podium) to be judgMENTAL, unmerciful and to hate in regards to their peers.....in most cases.

Frannie

Snickety

Obedience is tops in our home. Our children are still young, 6-1/2 years, 5 years, 3-1/2 years, and 18 months, and i will be the first to admit it's out to the parked car plain and simple if there's any acting up what so ever while attending the service. Normally the two older children are good, but the two younger ones can be a real challenge. They are "punished" for unruly behavior by way of spanking, usually through their pair of thickly padded diapers, (cloth diapers and rubber pants) which for the most part, simply sends a message to them to "stop" what they are doing. We find that rewards issued after a well behaved Church service provides our children with the insentive to try harder the next time.

TooOpinionated

You spank an 18 month old?

Being a JW mother, I really don't understand how these women do it.

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