"It turns out that as soon as this girl turned 18, her parents kicked her out of the house, saying, you are 18 now, you have to live on your own." Wow, I guess this just goes to show some people just shouldn't be allowed to have kids. I couldn't imagine throwing anyone to the wind like that especially if it were my own child.
Am I a Sucker?
by El Kabong 27 Replies latest jw friends
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El Kabong
Slavery? A bit harsh there don't you think? A slave is someone who is FORCED to work for another person. She's free to go if she wishes, I'm not holding her here.
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Mecurious?
Listen to your gut. No good deed.....
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katiekitten
For evil to prevail all it takes is that good men do nothing.
SO what if you are conned. You may well be. But... BUT if you never do a good deed you will never be conned.
Id rather do ten good deeds and get conned nine times and know that I had helped ONE geniuine person, and screw the other nine.
You are a good person. Dont ever stop.
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vitty
No you are not a sucker...........give her a chance she is far too young to go it alone.
She could mess up, be prepared, but dont we all as we learn to go it alone?.
If you dont do this you will always worry about if you did the right thing. If it fails you have nothing to be ashamed about.
I would get in touch with any agencies that will be able to help her long term for her future.
Goodluck
(im a mum of an 18 year old who couldnt cope without help)
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GetBusyLiving
You are NOT a sucker. You sound like a nice, decent person. Good on ya.
GBL
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Carol
El Kabong, you and your wife are doing the right thing! Vitta I know exactly what your talking about, I also have a 17 year old (she'll be 18 in a few months), that I don't think will be ready to be on her own until she's in her twenties!
El Kabong keep us posted on how she's doing!
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tetrapod.sapien
you sound like a very good guy. i like what u/d said: set timelines and goals.
and also think of a couple of things:
- she is obviously the victim of emotional abuse/neglect, on top of the fact that she may be partly autistic. perhaps all she needs is a little loving support from other humans like you and your wife, to get out and make a go of it with more confidence.
- think of your son in terms of what he would do if he were in her shoes. it's so sad that people like this get thrown out onto the streets by their parents. would he be similar to her? would he appriciate the helping support of good strangers?
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anewme
No, El Kabong you seem like a very nice man. The many precautions offered sound like good ideas too.
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Country_Woman
I don't think so, on the contrary: I think you and your wife are wonderful people.
I think you have to made precautions - (like locked doors) but