by El Kabong 27 Replies latest jw friends
I can't say anything more then others have said but watch her behavior on the slight that she could be into drugs ,ya never know but be wary and watchful and time will tell.
You ain't no sucker but a mush bag with a big heart Good for you and the Mrs.
I think you are a very kind-hearted person and if I had an extra room I would probably have done the same thing. Especially since you knew her from before. Probably a good idea to put a lock on your bedroom door though, especially if that's where your banking stuff is stored. Since you say she is a little different. But I think it's wonderful that you are going to help her get on her feet. I have an 18 year old daughter who is no way ready to survive on her own.
El Kabong,
When I was 19, I got thrown out by my dad. I had 48 hours to get out too, so little notice. I had nowhere to go. I slept on friends' couches until I found a place of my own. I am forever grateful for those "friends", as most of them were just coworkers that I was friendly with. We truly didn't know each other well. If it hadn't been for them, I would literally have been on the streets. Good luck and best wishes to your "foster daughter".
Andi
Thank you all for your responses.
I cannot understand how a parent can throw out one of their children out into the world when they know they are just not prepared for it.
It's like throwing a raw leg of lamb into a lion's cage.
I don't know. I'm not their judge.
Thank you all for the encouragement and for all your comments.
Sounds to me like you're doing all the right things. I think it's wonderful that you guys are helping her get on her feet again. Just be careful, and I'm sure everything will turn out fine. It's nice to hear about somone being kind to another person.
A question.... if she is autistic, is the SSI money available to her or other programmes?
G Money. Excellent point. One I intend for her to find out. I had a talk with her today regarding getting medical insurance. I think she needs some sort of vocational guidance and/or assistance. I think our state may be able to help. It's worth at least a phone call or two. But, SHE has to do the leg work. I will only act as an advisor of sorts.
El Kabong,
I guess the biggest fear I have is that we are somehow being conned. We really feel sorry for this girl, and we know she's different. I can't knowingly let her live out in the street. The least I can do is help her get on her feet a little.
For what its worth:
Yes I agree it is loving to care for others and bravo for your willingness to do so. Please listen to your suspicions as well. I have known individuals accused of rape by people they decided to help. We're they guilty? Let's just say that once the accuasation is made it doesn't matter. You are guilty. No one can take the chance that you are innocent. If you were innocent I'd have a hard time believing you. So, keep your antenna up. Never be alone with her. NEVER. NEVER. NEVER. Better to fault on the side of caution.
I dont say this from the JW standpoint of "you cant trust yourself" its more from the vantage point of "you don't really know this girl." I have family members in law enforcement and they repeatedly advise, DONT BE ALONE WITH A STRANGER NO MATTER HOW MUCH YOU WANT TO HELP THEM. I say find her another place that is designed to help people in her situation, subsidized housing or some home with only women in it. Sorry to seem like a jerk to some but I've seen kind people CONNED, not always witnesses either, compromised by thier generosity. Everyone is right, lock the doors she doesn't need access to. The best advice so far? Set deadlines and goals to be met by her by certain dates, i.e. a job in a week even if its fast food work. Gotta start somewhere.
Be generous but careful. I wish you success.
W.Once
