OK. I'm feeling pissy now

by Jourles 25 Replies latest jw friends

  • Jourles
    Jourles

    What would you do in this situation?

    The wife and I are heading to Cancun next Wednesday for a week. A younger sister from the hall will be house sitting for us during our trip. She is from a family that we used to do things with quite a bit. This evening, my wife asked me if I had any plans to work this weekend or go shopping or whatever. Since I moderately sprained my ankle a week ago, I have been just lounging around the house trying to take it easy(I gotta get this damn ankle better by our trip!).

    My wife wants me to leave the house for a little while so she can give the sister a run through of what to do around the house, how to work the remotes, etc. I told her I had no plans to go anywhere. So then she asked if I could just leave and go shopping or do something while the sister comes over. I sarcastically said with a smile, "I won't bite her." She just looked at me, turned around and left the house to go to the gym making sure she slammed the door loud enough for me to notice her angry attitude.

    Before I heard that door slam, I was plannng to comply with her request. But now, I am pissed. On the one hand, this is MY house and no one can tell me to leave simply because some witness may feel uncomfortable being in my presence. But on the other hand, she is coming over to keep an eye on things and to watch our cat(he's a full-time job as it is).

    I don't know. If I stick to my stubborn ways, that will surely keep my wife in a wonderful mood during our trip. And if I leave, she will be fine. But then there is that little ex-jw part of me that wants to get some satisfaction of making a jw feel uncomfortable being around me, in my own house.

  • damselfly
    damselfly

    No way would I be leaving my house so a jw would "feel more comfortable"

    Too f*cking bad for her! Especially since you sprained your ankle. Your're expected to hobble down the road while she looks around the house? Whatever

    Dams

  • alreadygone
    alreadygone

    I'm with dams. NO f'in way!!

  • Finally-Free
    Finally-Free

    You should NEVER allow anyone to undermine your authority in your own house!

    Do not accept the status of second class citizen in your own home, no matter what! It sets a very dangerous precedent.

    Please accept this advice from someone who was eventually locked out of his own home, that he inheirited from his non-jw father, and that the jw spouse never put a single cent into.

    W

  • 95stormfront
    95stormfront
    On the one hand, this is MY house and no one can tell me to leave simply because some witness may feel uncomfortable being in my presence. But on the other hand, she is coming over to keep an eye on things and to watch our cat(he's a full-time job as it is).

    There would be no way in hell I'd leave my home just to make a few or even one visiting JW happy.

    I'm thinking of buying a bigger house. My wife made the comment that, then, I'd have someplace to go in the house to entertain myself when she invites witnesses over.

    I told her that I wouldn't be going anywhere if a bunch of them came over and that I'd not be run out of or to a corner of a house that I'm paying for just so that they could be comfortable. If they're not comfortable around me, they can just stay the f%%$ away from my house.

    Since she hasn't had to and in fact hasn't worked in ten years, she got the message pretty quick.

    I'd cancel the JW housesitter, suck it up, and just put the cat in a pet hotel somewhere.

  • mrs rocky2
    mrs rocky2

    I just love it! the way JWs have to run around to comply with the no-contact orders with DFs and DAs! It's like upsetting an antpile! You would think we had leprosy the way they act/think! And such loving concern for your pain and suffering! I am so sorry you have to make a decision on whether to keep your wife happy or stand up for a principle. ((Jourles))

  • Scully
    Scully

    Hi Jourles

    Why not ask *her* if *she* would consider leaving the house sometime while *you* have one of your *apostate* friends over?

    Better still, cancel the dub housesitter and get a nice *apostate* to come and house-sit while you're away. Then your wife can be the one to exit stage left when you're showing them around.

  • Soledad
    Soledad
    I'd cancel the JW housesitter, suck it up, and just put the cat in a pet hotel somewhere.

    yeah. why have a JW come to your house and housesit? She could bring demons into your house!

  • Jourles
    Jourles

    So far everyone is pretty much in agreement. I was sort of leaning that way myself.

    I liked Scully's idea the best. Unfortunately, I don't know any fellow 'tates in my area.

    *off topic* I just got a phone call from one of the elders on my JC(the Secretary). He was looking for my wife so he could get her time. Surprisingly, he sounded very pleasant and did not come across as being arrogant, even knowing it was me he was talking to. I didn't even get a polite "have you thought about coming back?" speech. Probably because he has been reading my posts. Hi A.K.!

  • Scully
    Scully
    why have a JW come to your house and housesit? She could bring demons into your house

    Just a thought... if you decide to still have the JW come and house-sit for you... make sure all your suspicious material is in a place where she won't be able to find it.

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