OK. I'm feeling pissy now (page 2)

talesin

Before I heard that door slam, I was plannng to comply with her request.

So, were you yanking her chain to make her mad? I would think you should be happy, because you got what you wanted.

... just a thought.

By the way, I agree that you shouldn't have to leave your home while she shows the young one around. Working out a compromise from the get-go may have worked better.

I just don't know how so many of you folks do it, living with that kind of anger and sniping at each other all the time. I couldn't take it myself, which is why I'm single. My heart feels heavy for you. (hug)

tal

Finally-Free

Surprisingly, he sounded very pleasant and did not come across as being arrogant, even knowing it was me he was talking to.

Yes, they were very nice and friendly with me too, just before I got screwed over by them. Don't trust them, even for a moment.

W

Jourles

they were very nice and friendly with me too, just before I got screwed over by them

If you were to read my coming out story, you would find that the sec was the one that had the attitude from the beginning.

Tale,

I just don't know how so many of you folks do it, living with that kind of anger and sniping at each other all the time.

The thing is, we don't live in an angry household, nor do we snipe at each other. Part of my personality is to play with her, "yanking her chain." For the most part, she laughs at me for getting her to fall for little things. My comment about not biting the sister was obviously a joke that she didn't get. But under the circumstances, I probably used it with the intention of letting her know that I wasn't going to leave the house.

talesin

Jourles,

It's a hard way to live, with this JW stuff between you. I hear you on the teasing thing, though, and know what you mean. :D

Hoping it gets better, and she eventually joins you in your freedom ...

t

jgnat

If you really want to mess with a woman's mind, be all concilatory when she gets back from wherever. Make a bouquet of kleenex if you have to (spray it with some of her perfume). Write a poem with permanent marker on a rock from the garden (wash the rock first). Find some baker's chocolate in the kitchen and wrap it up in tin foil. Say you're sorry for annoying her. That way, you salvage your trip time together. Very few women can stay mad after a little attention like that.

But then tell her you're not leaving the house for ANYBODY, even the POPE. Don't back down. Be king of your castle.

95stormfront

if you decide to still have the JW come and house-sit for you... make sure all your suspicious material is in a place where she won't be able to find it.

Or better yet....leave it out in the open intentionally. Who knows.......typical JW nosiness may get the best of her and she'll actually, out of eyesight of the elders, read it.

A perfect opportunity to plant a seed.

blondie

Why not ask *her* if *she* would consider leaving the house sometime while *you* have one of your *apostate* friends over?

Better still, cancel the dub housesitter and get a nice *apostate* to come and house-sit while you're away. Then your wife can be the one to exit stage left when you're showing them around.

Good points, Scully.

Actually, Jourles, I think it is more likely that your wife would not mind using a reliable non-JW to do the babysitting. I know of several pet sitting services in my area that are bonded. Can I assme that the JW sister is not charging? and that your wife is concerned about all your stuff not be looted by the time you get back from vacation?

I can tell you horror stories of JWs who had other JWs house sit and found things missing or broken or private things rummaged through.

I wouldn't leave but I understand some JWs won't even go into a house where an DF/DA JW is (pretty extreme). But then they let convicted child molesters be reinstated and be members in good standing attending the meetings around children without the elders informing the rank and file.

Hope you work it out.

Love, Blondie

Billygoat

Few things...

One, is it possible that you're wife is trying to "protect" you from possible confrontation with the sister being in the house? I don't know all the details of your situation, but if you are fading, DFed, DAed, whatever...she may be thinking it would be awkward for YOU.

Second, is it possible that you're wife is trying to "protect" herself? Maybe she's nervous about what the brothers and sisters will say about her with having a husband that is fading, DFed, DAed, whatever...she may be fearful of the awkwardness for HERSELF. She may know this sister is going to leave your home, call everyone she knows on her cell phone and say, "I'm housesitting for Sister Jourles and her husband. I just left their place since Sister Jourles was showing me what to do when they're gone. You know what? He was THERE! And he is red and scaly with a bifurcated tail and carries a hayfork."

Third, it might be a good time to pull the "I am head of the household" card even if you are fading, DFed, DAed, whatever. As head of the household, you do NOT appreciate her storming out, do NOT appreciate her not communicating what her true feelings are, do NOT appreciate being asked to leave your own home. I hate to recommend this, but if you feel it necessary, it might help "tone" the situation down a bit. Or pour accelerant on the fire, I don't know.

Just my couple a cents,

Andi

95stormfront

Third, it might be a good time to pull the "I am head of the household" card even if you are fading, DFed, DAed, whatever. As head of the household, you do NOT appreciate her storming out, do NOT appreciate her not communicating what her true feelings are, do NOT appreciate being asked to leave your own home. I hate to recommend this, but if you feel it necessary, it might help "tone" the situation down a bit. Or pour accelerant on the fire, I don't know.

From the movie "New Jack City"....."money talks......bullshit runs a marathon......" -Nino Brown (aka Wesley Snipes)

The wife might take a "bullshit" approach as to me being her spiritual head.....but she recognizes right away that I'm her financial head.

prophecor

Tell them all to kiss @$$. That is your castle and no one should ever come between you and the bricks you own, regardless of any spent feelings, folks being uncomfortable, some feelings just need to be hurt. F'em!

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