Posts by stuckinarut2

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A woman without a voice

by SunnyOne026 in

this is my story in a nut-shell.

i hope some of you can relate.

if you can..i would love to hear from you.. i have been crushed and heartbroken more times than i can recount by a religion that claims to be based totally on love and mercy and most of that harm has come from the so called "shepherds" who or are supposed to lovingly take the stray lambs in their arms and lead them gently back to safety.

stuckinarut2

Welcome Sunny!

Thank you for sharing your story. Please be assured that this community is made up of people who are empathetic and caring. We are no longer held captive by the harsh viewpoints and judgemental attitudes that often characterise JW culture.

Your self-worth and self esteem is valuable, and you need to build this up. Recognise that you are a valuable person, and that regardless of what has happened to you, you have the right to be happy. Please remind yourself of that.

Also, as has often been said, "the windscreen is bigger than the rear-view mirror". So focus on what is ahead of you rather than what has happened in the past. Yes, take lessons from the past. Acknowledge the hurt it has caused. But now you have the opportunity to build a life that is free of the FOG (Fear Obligation Guilt) of your JW past.

Much love and support!

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So, is God a rapist!?

by stuckinarut2 in

ok, i apologise in advance if this seems irreverent to those who believe in god.. but, the bible says that god (jehovah) impregnated mary.

without her consent.

so that would seem to be rape...right?.

stuckinarut2

jp1692 has summed things up very well!

This thread had nothing to do with an "attack" on an individual. It was a thread about a biblical topic. Nothing more, nothing less.

To imply that it was hurtful toward an individual, or to have it railroaded into a direction it was never intended is sad.

Having said that, the comments made under david jays name re the "annunciation" were interesting. While this does not seem to be present in the actual text of the bible itself, the idea is interesting anyway. Thanks for that contribution.

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Episode Three - Emily is shunned by Jehovah's Witnesses - Is now live!

by dubstepped in

there are many ways to be shunned as one of jehovah’s witnesses.

emily’s story highlights a path that many take, a path of personal growth with stumbles along the way that result in ostracism, a path that deviates from the prescribed path of a cult that requires everyone to walk the same or face the consequences.

this story shines a light on the spectrum of the jw experience.. you can subscribe on itunes (apple podcasts), google play, or wherever you get your podcasts.. you can also stream directly from my website, and leave comments of support for emily and see what song she picked as one that signified her journey at:.

stuckinarut2

Thanks dubstepped!

Looking forward to this!!

Really appreciate the work that goes into your podcasts!

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So, is God a rapist!?

by stuckinarut2 in

ok, i apologise in advance if this seems irreverent to those who believe in god.. but, the bible says that god (jehovah) impregnated mary.

without her consent.

so that would seem to be rape...right?.

stuckinarut2

It is funny to see someone put so many negative votes on most of our comments.

I respect others right to disagree with the thread, but can they offer a better explanation of the "facts" about Mary's conception?

How is the conduct of "The Almighty" acceptable? How is it appropriate?

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A Little Direction Please

by Brian J in

i'm an active elder, cobe, just got home from the meeting where i handled the treasures part and concluded by announcing a friend of mine has been d/f,.....blah blah blah...and over the last year have woken up.

i simply cannot spill my guts to my wife and children as it would be family suicide.

i have zero desire to bash, spread my feelings, or become an "apostate".

stuckinarut2

Well put steve2!

Hello Brian J....please pop back and share your thoughts.

We are all here to help.

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Religion is just like Advertising!

by stuckinarut2 in

a thought occurred to me today, that religion is just like a clever marketer or advertiser.

first , a "problem" is created, then the advertiser offers the "solution"!.

religion does the same!

stuckinarut2

Well put Doubtfull1799!

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oh witnesses

by zeb in

jw
friends

we attended an orchestral concert last night.

before the show there was have a drink mingle thing and my dear wife met some sisters who she sees so many times a week and got into a round x round conversation on......fs arrangements.. no commentary on the music to come, the beautiful venue or the opportunity to take in such a concert.

i went to the loo .....

stuckinarut2

Oh dear Zeb...I feel your pain.

Once we are out, it stands out so clearly just how dysfunctional witnesses are! They feel guilty for not speaking about "spiritual matters" (aka society stuff)

They also feel the need to "one-up" each other in just how "spiritual" they can be when they talk...

At a concert no less? So sorry mate!

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Hugh Hefner died a few weeks back but no post on it. Interesting.

by Still Totally ADD in

jw
friends

i bring this up because like me i sure many of the men who was kids in the wt cult got their first taste of what a nude women looked like.

it was the adolescent male sex education for most of us.

one friend i had who's dad was a elder told me they always had playboys in his house because his dad subscribed to them.

stuckinarut2

Still Totally ADD;

Yes. As an adult now, I see that being raised from birth in this cult messed us up so much in this regard....

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California Tubbs Fire photos you might not find find anywhere else...

by La Capra in

jw
friends

to quote someone near and dear: they should have built the whole kingdom hall out of the same thing they built the signs.... i had to wait nearly two weeks to get into the neighborhood to get these pictures for your voyeuristic interests...this is peanuts compared to the over 5,000 homes that were destroyed (this number includes individual units in large apartment complexes that were completely razed).

those pictures and videos are available in the media.

wine country is a community devastated..

stuckinarut2

My heart goes out to all in that fire ravaged community.

But, as for the society - well they will end up making far more out of this through insurance....AND they will expect the local congregation to donate time and money to rebuild. Double dipping....

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A Little Direction Please

by Brian J in

i'm an active elder, cobe, just got home from the meeting where i handled the treasures part and concluded by announcing a friend of mine has been d/f,.....blah blah blah...and over the last year have woken up.

i simply cannot spill my guts to my wife and children as it would be family suicide.

i have zero desire to bash, spread my feelings, or become an "apostate".

stuckinarut2

Everyone has already posted brilliant suggestions.

I echo all here when I say - take things slowly. Simply share things that have "disturbed" you, without sounding bitter or negative.

Find a quote from some scientist that has been taken out of context, and show her the original full quote.

Share an observation about "things that don't seem quite right..."

Slowly step back from witness activity. Replace the time by doing fun things as a family. Go out for a nice day on a Sunday...show that life can be fun and refreshing by not being stuck on the witness treadmill..(but don't actually say that.)

This is a long game! Don't try and rush it, or force topics, or make her see things...or that will just have the opposite effect and cause her to dig her heels in.

Then, after some time, and by being a kind, patient and loving husband, she will see things for herself...