We do exactly the same ToesUp.
But only just today I got abused by a Jw who said that I was "being a smart arse by trying to act all nicely and friendly" to the witnesses who are spreading spreading slanderous stuff around about us.
He literally attempted to redefine our happiness and kindness, as some sort of fake ploy we are putting on!
It amazes me. If our life turned to shit after walking away from the cult, they would gloat over it and say things like "well that's what happens when you leave the truth"
But if our life is happy, successful and defined by kindness, they will say it's all a put-on!
I shouldn't be surprised really. That's cult propaganda at work.