so i wont get into why i asked my jw wife to leave... theres another thread for that lol... but more out of pure curiosity i asked her just now... "in order to save this marriage would you leave the jws?
", it was a snap call no, like not even a second to pause and think about it, which kinda took me back a bit, followed by a angry "why would you ask me that now?
" (shes going out witnessing with my kids and her friends).
Sorry to hear that you guys have such tensions in the relationship. That is never pleasant -regardless of the reason.
I wish you well.
If the topic comes up, try to spin it the other way. Ask her something like "what efforts would you put in to strengthen or build our marriage?. What would you be willing to sacrifice to draw closer together?"
another "gem" from the convention.
there's a talk about remaining neutral.
one of the topics they say jw's should avoid is the topic of "peoples lives matter" which is barely veiled code for black lives matter.
I wonder how quiet they would be if they were "persecuted"?
#jwlivesmatter
Or if the GB were sexually abused?
#metooGB
my sister texted me last night with an invitation to watch our dad give his first ever public talk.
i don't live particularly near to my family, but i'm not too far from them to make the journey, and i am on good terms with them, having never been baptised and so not disfellowshipped; they don't shun me and likely wouldn't even if i were disfellowshipped, it's not in their character.. i haven't been inside a kingdom hall since 2006, and i would like to keep it that way; i only intend to step inside one again in the event of a family wedding or funeral service.
i don't want to be rude to my sister, ignoring the text isn't an option, so i need a diplomatic way of declining her invitation.. i've considered saying that i'm busy, but this leaves things open for her to ask again in the future, and i'd rather she got the message that i'm not interested, without me having to say so in an explicit way.. any suggestions from those who have been in a similar situation?.
Sarcasm alert:
"Thanks, that sounds great. If you could also join me when I attend the next "Sceptics and Atheists" convention in the next few months, that would be wonderful"
yesterday, i had a conversation with my neighbor during which i explained the greatest reason why i wanted to raise my kids out of the jws: the fear (which translate to hate) jws have for everyone showing no interest in becoming part of their group.
in order for him to quickly relate to what i meant i asked him to imagine, for a moment, he was the biggest racist he has ever known, forced to live in a black neighborhood.
how would you feel?
Brilliant comparison!
Thank you for sharing.
not quite a week ago, @lost in the fog created a thread entitled: do you have this illness?.
https://www.jehovahs-witness.com/topic/5187824140681216/do-you-have-this-illness.
in my year of being on this forum, i have browsed many a disillusioned thread of ex-jehovah’s witnesses expressing similar symptoms of post traumatic stress disorder when detailing their awakening - my own story included.
Awww...shucks....😊 (Blushes)
not quite a week ago, @lost in the fog created a thread entitled: do you have this illness?.
https://www.jehovahs-witness.com/topic/5187824140681216/do-you-have-this-illness.
in my year of being on this forum, i have browsed many a disillusioned thread of ex-jehovah’s witnesses expressing similar symptoms of post traumatic stress disorder when detailing their awakening - my own story included.
Well done Dubstepped!
Thanks for sharing this great content from WakeMe!
(I feel privileged to know Wake Me personally. She has such a clever mind and a wonderful way of writing.)
since the jws love to control the sex lives of its followers, it seems reasonable that they would be freaking out about same-sex sex as it becomes more open in the current culture (thus videos like that horrible cartoon).
are they going to start not allowing "girlfriends" to have slumber parties or require they are chaperoned by a "mature" elder or older sister?
Welcome to the forum StainedGlassHeart.
I see this is your first thread? We are happy to have you here.
i was thinking about how the borg screws up and sexually neuters their flock by telling them when single to "deaden their body" and then boom as soon as there's a ring on the finger to not be denying eachother.. do any of you know of jws who have been screwed up by these teachings?
i know 2, 1 elder came back from honeymoon having a nervous breakdown unable to cope with the cd that sex produced in his head.
and the other called up her parents while on honeymoon, crying and begging for themto come and get her, since she was so shocked that sex hurt.
Yes, interesting thread purrpurr.
It is indeed a messed up situation when everything to do with sex is WRONG WRONG WRONG before marriage, and then suddenly OK straight after the "I Do".
From childhood on, a JW is told that it is SINFUL. In a growing child's mind, they come to view sex itself, or sexual feelings of any sort as BAD.
There is no doubt that this causes stress in an average JWs mind - and life.
I can remember a situation when a friend of mine (who was NOT born in, but converted in his late 20's) was about to get married. He was asking me and another older brother what acts were ok and what was not! I wasn't even married, so I had no idea!
one argument against beards i've heard multiple times, both from individual jws and from the platform is roughly:.
'timothy got circumcised so as not to stumble others!
shouldn't you be thankful you don't have to do that?
All I want to know is HOW did the ancient believers know who was circumcised or not??
Did they go around flashing their penis at one another to prove it???
time to revive this well known, and often used jw illustration!.
"if you are in desperate need of a drink of water, and the glass in front of you is 99% clean, but contains just 1% poison, would you drink it??".
how often we heard this trotted out from the platform.. recently though, i have heard many examples of still-in jws sharing their observations about things that don't seem quite right with the current activities, direction and culture of the organization.
So true OrphanCrow. So True
