Nice to see you two J's are back....and sorry to hear you had such a terrible time on your vacation.......I feel so bad for you everytime I look at those pictures...lol...Wish I could have went for ya
Codeblue
ok, all you boys & girls, hope everyone was good while we were gone.. .
i had a conference i had to go to!
and was offline for a week!
Nice to see you two J's are back....and sorry to hear you had such a terrible time on your vacation.......I feel so bad for you everytime I look at those pictures...lol...Wish I could have went for ya
Codeblue
how to handle this situation: as of june i have stopped going to the meetings.
i do have one sister that tells me i should keep on my schedule of meetings....she currently thinks i am not going to the meetings because i am new here and my husband works out of town a lot and i already remarked that i didn't want to go without him.
i have also told her i have been going thru a depression, with this move, major move #13 and being new here.. well, today, she dropped of 2 watchtowers for this sunday.
Minimus:
I think you are "right on"...thanks for the info....The sister and her husband came by to ask if He could take Ken to the airport tomorrow...(he does the same job, educational instructor and they fly everywhere and are gone a LOT, he happens to fly out about the same time as Mr. CB...but They want me to be at the meetings (since I haven't been there since JUNE)....I told him: I am taking Mr. CB and I have plans after that.......hmmm...I know he is wondering: What plans??? He didn't ask...I didn't tell..
Just for you, Minimus and the board....I am meeting Mulan and her husband...my first meetup with someone who feels like me...they are close to the airport....Wish me well on a great breakfast with NEW FRIENDS that really care about me and me caring about them....
Codeblue
are you a recovering caffeine addict?.
do you now avoid it altogether?.
how did you go about breaking the habit?.
I love coffee---I usually only drink about 3 cups in the morning (ok...they are LARGE CUPS...hehe). Sometimes I feel the need to lower the caffeine because I know it is affecting me. (like I am getting very nervous...) AT those times I would switch to a half decaf/half caffeine blend....try that for a while.
Your headaches are associated with the LACK of caffeine...sorry...that is the TRUTH....I experienced headaches when I went to total DECAF coffee...but after a couple of weeks I was ok...
Hope this info helps...
Codeblue
when i was a jw a was lucky enough to be in a hall with a "click" you know the type.
they all hung out together.
went to quickbuilds together and ensured that they were the ones with power in the hall.. i remember trying to join the quickbuild team as a 14 year old, only to be asked by the elder in charge of it (and allso in charge of the click), what building qualifications i had!.
I attended a KH on time that had about 6 married sisters that pioneered. I would always go out and "support" them. They finally asked me when was I going to pioneer or aux. pioneer? So I thought I would aux. pioneer one month, and signed up. That is the month I had "NO SUPPORT"....hmmm kinda strange don't you think? That was the last time I aux. pioneered....ONLY went out in the f. service because I wanted to whether or not they needed support.
I was very disappointed in these so called pioneers, most had elder husbands, you would have thought they would have done the same favor for me that I willingly did for them. Yeah....I got tired of "clicks" soon enough.
Codeblue
I do not forgive my ex-husband for repeatedly cheating on me. Nor the supposed chick friends who were "too friendly" with that ex-husband. (Get my drift?) Talk about a double whammy.
Codeblue
how to handle this situation: as of june i have stopped going to the meetings.
i do have one sister that tells me i should keep on my schedule of meetings....she currently thinks i am not going to the meetings because i am new here and my husband works out of town a lot and i already remarked that i didn't want to go without him.
i have also told her i have been going thru a depression, with this move, major move #13 and being new here.. well, today, she dropped of 2 watchtowers for this sunday.
Thanks for all your responses...each and every one of you.
I do have the advantage, when I moved here, I held my cards back at another state...and refused to send them because of the totally terrible elders supposedly giving us a "welcoming visit" and they AVOIDED me for 2 hours and 45 minutes...all the while grilling Mr. CB.....that was definintely a turning factor in my life of what Jehovah approves of and what he doesn't. My cards remain in another state about 1,000 miles away.
Also, MR. CB is my only family here (we are in total agreement about the FADE, and we are FADING together...oh what a feeling) I am referring to family members in other states...which at this time I choose a "low profile" thinking I can plant some very subtle seeds...
Any who want to add to the list of reasons why I am not at the KH...I still appreciate your thoughts....some of you have been very inventive...and have given me quite a few laughs...like: Play like you are a JW and it is Halloween and don't answer the door...lol (boy do I remember doing that in my past...hehe)
Codeblue
how to handle this situation: as of june i have stopped going to the meetings.
i do have one sister that tells me i should keep on my schedule of meetings....she currently thinks i am not going to the meetings because i am new here and my husband works out of town a lot and i already remarked that i didn't want to go without him.
i have also told her i have been going thru a depression, with this move, major move #13 and being new here.. well, today, she dropped of 2 watchtowers for this sunday.
How to handle this situation: As of June I have stopped going to the meetings. I do have one sister that tells me I should keep on my schedule of meetings....She currently thinks I am not going to the meetings because I am new here and my husband works out of town a lot and I already remarked that I didn't want to go without him. I have also told her I have been going thru a depression, with this move, major move #13 and being new here.
Well, today, she dropped of 2 Watchtowers for this Sunday. (She is also a newly baptized sister as well)....I tried to evade that topic because what I really wanted to say is: "I have had some really negative experiences at this KH (I have for real)"....but at the same time I want to just FADE......I don't want any committee meetings....or action from any elders...at this time I can't risk my new decision to be realized because of certain family members that I know will avoid me and I can't take any more pressure or any more added STRESS in my life.
So, what can I say that will get the "heat" off of me...any ideas would greatly be appreciated.
Codeblue
not alcoholics anonymous, mind you.
:) atheists/agnostics.
i know there are some of us here; who's with me?
Hey LittleToe and Mulan:
Wish I could see ya in Florida at Joy's....I can't be in till November 3rd...how long are you guys gonna be in Panama City Beach?
Would be great to meet both of you.
LittleToe....Mr. Codeblue would enjoy meeting and having some discussions with ya too!
And yes, I believe in God----the wonders of creation are proof to me---I live in one of the most absolute beautiful places a person can live, living testimony that there is a Creator.
Codeblue
rejection may be as tough as physical pain by paul recer, ap
washington (oct. 9) - a rejected lover's broken heart may cause as much distress in a pain center of the brain as an actual physical injury, according to new research.ap graphicrejection registers in the same part of the brain as physical pain does.
california researchers have found a physiological basis for social pain by monitoring the brains of people who thought they had been maliciously excluded from a computer game by other players.. naomi i. eisenberger, a scientist at the university of california, los angeles and the first author of the study to be published friday in the journal science, said the study suggests that the need for social inclusiveness is a deep-seated part of what it means to be human.. ''these findings show how deeply rooted our need is for social connection,'' said eisenberger.
Great Post!!!
I have always wondering why I feel the way I do with the major things in life I have went thru. Thanks for finding this information. I now know it is a medical reason for why I feel the way I do...not just an emotional thing...
Thanks again!!!
Codeblue
yes, i have many times asked this of my self.
after leavening the witness's its been hard, i think ewww i am no good cause unless i am attending the kingdom hall i won't have gods grace and he won't hear my prayers or anything.
boy they sure had me, being raised a witness sticks with you long after you leave in ways you think it never would and in ways you just can't can't flush.
Actually you already have found him!!!
Remember song : Make The Truth Your Own? (sorry after 35 years of hearing that song I can't get it outta my mind...lol) Your relationship with Jehovah is YOUR own...you always have Jehovah even if you aren't at the meetings at the Kingdom Hall. By Making the Truth Your Own....you don't need anyone else or a building to keep it....Just you and HIM...Talk to him everyday and read his word the Bible....
Codeblue