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  Once a cheater always a cheater?

  by Aalena in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  i caught my boyfriend of 8 years cheating on me about a month ago.

  he claims it is the only time he has ever cheated and he never thought he would ever cheat nor would he ever do it again.

  some of my friends are upset at me saying i should have left him immeditately.

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  codeblue

  Wow...sorry you are going thru this.

  My first husband started cheating by the 2nd anniversary.......and he even cheated later with my best friend in the Truth(tm)....We divorced 3 weeks before our 20th anniversary.......He never stopped cheating! Four years after the divorce he married my study, whom he also worked with in the past...(hmmm...no coincidence here!!!)

  Nobody ever told me to dump him....even at the end when I had the worst case scenario to find out about his cheating.....They supported me either way I chose...

  So I will not tell you to dump him.

  What is important here is YOU. How much do you value yourself?

  I had low self esteem and that is the reason I put up with his cheating, because even though he said he "cared about me"...logically, when a person has an affair or affairs, they DON'T care about you. He didn't know what love is...love doesn't CHEAT.

  Many times he was sorry he got CAUGHT....not what he did...

  Good advise: get an HIV test and any sexually transmiited disease tests...............take care of yourself!!!

  If you decide to continue the relationship, make it with mandatory counseling for BOTH of you....

  Please feel free to pm me if you need to vent or talk further....I am here for you!!!

  Codeblue
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  GOT MY OUT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

  by josephus in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  ive been here for around 5 years, but rarely write these days.

  well i had to tell everybody the good news.. since i drifted away (thanks to many but mostly simon and fakel) i have helped 7 people leave.

  today my mom has told me shes never going back.

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  Congrats on the upcoming marriage...!!!

  Just wondering, how did you get your Mom to read both of Ray Franz's books? Was your Mom a super Jw??? Just wondering...

  Codeblue
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  Wedding Photos (I hope this works)

  by Nosferatu in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i'm not sure if this will work, but my mother-in-law sent us a link with pictures from the wedding.

  hopefully you can view them.

  you may have to copy & paste the link:.

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  codeblue

  Congratulations Nos!!! You 2 look so happy!!! Thanks for sharing the great wedding photos!!!
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  Why Did El Shaddai become Jehovah? Attention Leolaia

  by jst2laws in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  dear leolaia

  from reading your research, which is wonderful, i'm confused about what moses was trying to say in exodus.

  and god went on to speak to moses and to say to him: ?i am jehovah.

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  codeblue

  wow...wondering how I missed this thread...wow.......pretty heavy to think that Moses started this thing about Jehovah, being god's personal name.

  I obviously need to get that book by Karen Armstong......(sitting here with a heavy head and heart right now!!)

  Codeblue
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  lost and alone

  by black ghost in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i was raised a j.w.

  for 20+ years and slid out of the back door in 1998(no-one noticed me slide) and when i went out into the big bad world i found i was completely naive and clueless as i had lived in a tiny shell all my life, for example i had never met a gay person and i believed every non member was evil and out to get me.. has anyone any similar experiences?how did you get the past out of your mind and move on?

  do you still feel disadvantaged or do you think you benefited in any way?.

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  Welcome!!!

  Yes....I know what you mean by that "lost feeling"... I think we all do when we leave something we were "raised in" or had been in for a while.

  I was raised as a JW and lived it for 36 years!!! Fortunately my hubby feels the same as me (he was raised as a JW too). We have been fading for a year now.

  Best advice I can give you is to meet with some that post from this board.......I have found that it helped my overwhelming feeling that I am now "alone" and learning how to live without the confines of the WTBS.

  Doing some reading also helps: The Road Less Traveled by Scott Peck.........a must read to truly understand what unconditional love is and understanding you and your family as well.

  I have just read Steve Hassan's books on mind control....Those are must reads as well!!!

  Take care and nice reading a bit about you!!!

  Codeblue
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  Letter to JW-Inlaws

  by catlady in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i have drafted the following letter to send to my partner?s inlaws & family (with his approval).

  this has been an ongoing situation & i am most concerned that his kids are going to hear these lies & this will destroy the pleasant relationship that i have with them.

  i'm also getting sick of not defending myself & having to put up with all this endless crap!

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  Fantastic letter!!! Please keep us updated, if ya can. I would like to know how they reply to your courteous, precise letter!
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  4 Photos Taking Robert Pig For Walk This Afternoon

  by Celtic in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  ruddy dog.

  much as i love him to bits, i really do, he be one hec of a ruddy 'andful, ruddy boisterous ruddy thing.

  ohhhh but you know i love you happy pigggggg, peacheyyyyyyyyy!!.

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  codeblue

  That dog is awesome!!!!
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  I had a visitor!!!!!!

  by Sunspot in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  whoooeeeee!

  about 10 minutes ago i had a visitor!

  she was a sister that we used to pal around with, we had several dinners together and she and her husband and my husband played cards together.

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  codeblue

  That really is exciting!!! Wow...I would love to know why they aren't JW's anymore. Please keep us informed, if ya can!!!
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  Hello

  by LadyExWay in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i would like to introduce myself, i am a former member of the way international.

  i came here from a link that refiner posted at a board for ex-way people that i occassionally read.

  i was hoping to be able to join a few discussions.

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  codeblue

  Welcome
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  Experience with a so called "worldy" person

  by mbn36 in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i just wanna share an experience of mine, i hope it will help anyone with a related issue.

  im 20 years old, i still live with my parents and go to school full-time.

  for 17 years i was a jw on and off.

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  codeblue

  Welcome

  Very interesting experience and glad that you have some "inner peace"...