yer, the first guy i was with was abusive...
i had faded out of the org at that time to be with him and etc...
he was fine at first, then after a while he showed his true colours...he had a drug problem although in the beginning he hid it pretty well...it got worse after he quit his job, because he knew he was getting an inheritance from his fathers estate so he was around the house all day at that point...
He would throw my clothes in the bin..when he had a 'tantrum' He would scream, and then say I had provoked him...and when i first started seeing him ...he showed no hint of even being like this..in fact he was the sweetest caring guy i had ever meet...but it didnt last.
I remember it being xmas and telling him I was pregnant...he hit the roof..and we had a fight...I had a miscarriage...
I left not long after, I just got on a train and headed to my mothers...I remember he called when i was on the train..''where are u etc''...because i had been gone for ages...I told him I was on the way to sydney and I wasnt coming back..
It took me 3 years to get away from him. He called my cell phone night and day...called my mothers all the time...he sent letters...threats...you name it..now its been 4 years and he has only just stopped.
It amazes me to this day that he had ways of finding my new phone numbers etc...
Anyone in this type of a relationship should just get out first chance they get...I know its hard but otherwise you will end up living in fear 24/7 the way I did or still do to a point...I even changed my last name so he couldnt have another way to find me..I spent all day everyday in the house only leaving to go to the kingdom hall...
I felt huge amounts of guilt because i thought i should try and stay and help him get over the problem with speed and etc...but only a professional can help someone like that...
My advice is just get out...go to a womans abuse centre if there is nowhere else to go...but just get out. I also got a restraining order, they are a help it will keep the guy away so you can make a clean break...I also changed all my bank accounts that i had with him...I had my name and etc taken off them and opened my own...I got a post office box because that way he wouldnt see a home address if he did manage to get any details...he had his sister call me not long ago..but i just ignored it...they usually dont give up that easy, so my advice is get out now. They might say they are sorry...and they wont do it again..but they do..and they only get worse.