Phaedra

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  JT & Lady Cee Why we left the Jehovah's Witnesses - Part 1

  by JT-LadyC in

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  2. experiences

  many years ago, my husband and i appeared on the board that was known as h20 aka simon's site.

  it has been a while since we have posted anything, so i guess i can say that this is like coming out of retirement.

  lol.

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  JT and LadyC,

  Really enjoyed watching your videos and visiting your Web site. Well done!
  
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  What is your relationship with ALCOHOL?

  by nicolaou in

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  2. physical

  here in the uk new drinking guidelines have been issued which suggest "no more than 14 units a week - equivalent to six pints of beer or seven glasses of wine.".

  another piece of the advice which is getting a lot of attention is that "if people drink, it should be moderately over three or more days and that some days should be alcohol-free.".

  already people are making cries of "nanny state!

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  My relationship with alcohol: total honesty.
  
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  Domain Webmaster: Logging, Privacy and Features

  by Hadriel in

  1. forum
  2. suggestions

  question for the webmaster and authors of this site.. to what degree is logging kept on your server?.

  has there been any consideration to move the server/host to for example the netherlands or iceland etc for added privacy rather than a u.s. based host such as is the case now (currently in mountain view, ca)?

  any thought on allowing users to tag other users (e.g.

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  Simon the great!
  
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  Three years since I've been here and a lot has happened!

  by new boy in

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  2. friends

  i wrote a book.

  it's on the is on amazon.

  "the persistent illusion".

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  I loved visiting Sedona. You have a very nice view outside of your window.
  
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  Orgone Energy and Jehovah's Witnesses

  by Phaedra in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  just a little process writing ... with a some tongue-in-cheekiness tossed in.

  i pulled out my copy of this book, which i still have with all the highlighted answers and scriptures written in the margins when i was a tween and teen studying to get baptized.

  my whole existence was based on the ideas in this book being real and true and i lived my life accordingly, sacrificing myself to the jehovah's witnesses organization, with nothing to show for it.

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  My intermittent study for baptism in that book literally spanned three conductors and four years.

  In the front cover I wrote some notes. One reads: "Completed February 16, 1989."

  The other, a numbered list that was a constant gauge to measure my spiritual health:
  

  5 Valves

  1. prayer
  2. regular personal study
  3. meeting attendance
  4. field service
  5. association
     
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  What's a better story that Beth-sarim

  by eyeuse2badub in

  1. watchtower
  2. scandals

  http://nyp.st/1mgz4ql.

  this group built a place for non other than jesus-heck with those "ancient worthies".. just saying!.

  eyeuse2badub.

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  Miracle Wheat?

  the COMING 1975 and GOING

  the growing number of the 188,000
  
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  The really cool feeling of community within JWs

  by Phaedra in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i remember going out with other jws after the memorial.. small gatherings.. picnics at some local landmark.. the feeling of closeness, camaraderie, friendship with like minded people you could trust.. haven't experienced it since i left.. really miss that..

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  Thanks for the insights and sharing. Reading some of the comments here have given me some much-needed perspective. I can appreciate the range of experiences many of us have; as well as the gradients and context that make our stories what they are.
  

  I attribute much of my naive thinking to being raised-in, with a close bunch of friends before I came of age, and a couple of mentors who took me under their wing when my parents separated. We had lots of fun times: picnics, square dancing, a formal, skating, and even talent shows before they clamped down on socializing outside of the KH. I've also been part of very small congregations who are family-like in taking care of one another.

  My need greater parents currently reside in a close-knit congregation, but at the heart of it all, even they were ready to disown me if I signed a letter with my intent of disassociation. So I didn't. I said to my elder father: "Dad, I'm not going to sign anything." He didn't know how to handle that moment, as it was not in his playbook. It's been left like that since, and we are simply all estranged.
  

  After I entered my 20s, I started experiencing the undercurrents of cognitive dissonance. It wasn't until I got online in the mid-90s that I followed my intuition into forbidden territory, and the rest is history. And yes, I know at the core of it all, if you are not speaking the language, you are no longer part of the community. It's all too easy to be judged and cast out for daring to be yourself and express what's really in your heart. You can't. It all has consequences.
  

  The longing to belong... a deep human need. I know all too well.
  

  On a lighter note, will y'all please stop scrapping in my thread. ;)
  
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  The really cool feeling of community within JWs

  by Phaedra in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i remember going out with other jws after the memorial.. small gatherings.. picnics at some local landmark.. the feeling of closeness, camaraderie, friendship with like minded people you could trust.. haven't experienced it since i left.. really miss that..

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  I remember going out with other JWs after the memorial.

  Small gatherings.

  Picnics at some local landmark.

  The feeling of closeness, camaraderie, friendship with like minded people you could trust.

  Haven't experienced it since I left.
  

  Really miss that.
  
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  Yearbook 2016: Annual Report (15177 Partakers)

  by Designer Stubble in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  the 2016 yearbook is up on jw.orgbranches of jehovahs witnesses: 89 (was 90)number of lands reporting: 240 (was 239)total congregations: 118016 (was 115416)worldwide memorial attendance: 19,862,763 (was 19,950,019) decreasememorial partakers worldwide: 15,177 (was 14,121 in 2013:13,204) large increasepeak of publishers in kingdom service: 8,220,105 (was 8,201,205) minor increaseaverage publishers preaching each month: 7,987,279 (was 7,867,958)percentage of increase over 2014: 1.5 (was 2.2)total number baptized: 260,273 (was 275,581)average auxiliary pioneer publishers each month: 443,504 (was 635,298) huge decreaseaverage pioneer publishers each month: 1,135,210 (was 1,089,446)total hours spent in field: 1,933,473,727 (was 1,945,487,604) decreaseaverage home bible studies each month: 9,708,968 (was 9,499,933)

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  Memorial Partakers Worldwide: 15,177 (was 14,121 in 2013:13,204) LARGE INCREASE

  The biggest elephant in the room that the organization won't address and JWa don't talk seriously enough about.

  WHY?
  
  
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  Video Ads Now Playing on JWN?

  by AudeSapere in

  1. forum
  2. tech-support

  is there a way to stop the advertisement videos that play when i am reading a thread?.

  i don't remember this happening until this afternoon.

  there is no 'pause' or 'stop' button to grab so i can silence the video and it slows down my system.. i don't mind static ads but the videos create stress on my computer system - and me!.

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  rogue advertisers are common on another board I frequent.