i'm a new person here and i have a question about a family member.
hopefully, you can help and i will appreciate any and all answers.
if a man marries a jw gal and the jw gal cannot get her husband to convert (he has no interest in joining, but supports her beliefs), will the jw gal be "looked down upon" by her kh?
i'm a new person here and i have a question about a family member.
hopefully, you can help and i will appreciate any and all answers.
if a man marries a jw gal and the jw gal cannot get her husband to convert (he has no interest in joining, but supports her beliefs), will the jw gal be "looked down upon" by her kh?
this link may be of interest to you.
http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/20/69532/1.ashx
sorry bit new to this myself! if that doesn't work look under "relationships" it is the last but one post!
i'm a new person here and i have a question about a family member.
hopefully, you can help and i will appreciate any and all answers.
if a man marries a jw gal and the jw gal cannot get her husband to convert (he has no interest in joining, but supports her beliefs), will the jw gal be "looked down upon" by her kh?
i swear, these things are going to give me nightmares.
the evil smiles.
the look that says, "i want to kill you.
the special announcement read at the end was an invite for any interested ones (tm) to ask if they wanted a bible study.....and that a special meeting will be held next sunday in all the congregations worldwide, and an invite was given for all to attend.
i loved going and was good to see all the brothers and sisters again, the po who gave the talk made a bee line for me straight after the closing prayer, straight off the platform (i had to stand as there were no seats) and asked to speak to me, and directed me to the back of the hall, i thought here we go......jc convening shortly......but no he said the wt society in london had contacted him as i'd wrote them asking for the magazines, and he would be happy to drop by and had done, but never found me at home.
so we arranged a date for him to call next week.. the hall was packed, and from my standing point i had plenty of opportunity to have a scan about, despite being horrified that their were brothers there who were betting looking than even me ( in my newly bought outfit!
I am too tired to read through all the posts on this thread toughly sorry!
So I apologize if this point has already been made.
I did go to the memorial last night. First meeting in 9 months,
The special announcement was the same old stuff about offering new ones bible studies etc as was said in the original post.
The difference was simply that ?we are pleased to announce a special letter from the governing body? and the whole end of memorial speech was read out,
Pudd xxx
this is my official liberation-opting to miss a memorial and joining the community here on this day.
i've been to the memorial maybe twice in 12 years but was "this close" to checking it out again for curiousness sake to see if i would feel differently as so much time has passed and beacuse i've changed so much.
anyone here ever wonder if you just imagined the horrorness of being a jw?
Hello Art and welcome!
You made a coment:
was "this close" to checking it out again for curiousness sake to see if I would feel differently
well, you made the right choice! unfortunatatly I didn't. I asked myself the same question and dicided to go. really big mistake! The way I feel right now I will never step foot in a kingdom hall again.
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i hated wearing dresses to the meetings........... .
give me daisy dukes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
When I first stared attending meetings, I was 16. I did not own a dress, or a skirt!
I am the eldest of 9 kids and my parents struggled to make ends meet. We lived on what the witnesses called ?the dog and flea map? everyone hated that territory and even the brothers always worked in pairs!
The kingdom hall was in the next town and they were a real ?keep up with the Joneses? type. Always competing about who had the best car, extension ?and clothes!
I spent more money than we could afford on some second hand meeting clothes, but I could never have dressed like them. I often would sit and cry before a meeting because I knew I could not meet their dress standards.
Well, I worked hard in every other aspect of ?the truth? my field service averaged around 50 hours a month, I never missed a meeting, studied all the material, and never came close to breaking the rules.
So after about 8 months of studying I requested to be baptized. My request was denied. Why? Because they felt I needed to work on my dress!!!!
I was always clean and tidy; it was just that my clothes were a little out of date and maybe a bit shabby.
The point is though, that the community already saw me as a witness as I was always out in service. Isn?t baptism meant to be a public demonstration of your dedication to God?
Were they saying that my dedication was invalid because I couldn?t keep up with the latest witness fashion styles?!
I was so humiliated, and felt that Jehovah had rejected me. it really upset me. It took me another year to feel able to ask again, which was accepted.
i'm a non jw currently seeing a jw.
i am not totaly clear about the rules about jw's in dating.
could someone explain this to me and does it vary from family to family at all?
I hate to be negative, but many JWs who date 'worldly people' (non-JW) are doing so to have a secret life, so I wouldn't count on acutally being a real part of their life. The only alternative would be if the JW wasn't really serious about being a JW, and was looking to 'get out.'
I am sorry but I don?t really agree with this statement.
10 years ago when I was in my early twenties, I was very serious about being a witness. In fact I was a pioneer, and for all the right reasons! I also had no witness family to influence me.
I met up with an old friend from before becoming a witness. I did not intent to fall in love with him, it just happened. I was not looking to live a double life or leave the truth.
He was there for me at a very difficult time in my life and we drew close as a result.
I know witnesses are not suppose to make friends in ?the world? especially if they are of the opposite sex but some times things happen that we don?t plan. I was honest about him to the elders and ultimately I had to choose. I chose my faith and walked away.
I am now married to a different man, but I will never forgive myself for the way I treated a man who was kind, selfless and totally genuine.
While I am happy that I met my husband and the children that I have from my marriage are my life, If I could turn the clock back I would do things so very differently.
I am happy to say that the man I left is now happy with a new partner and has a baby son.
The point is though that even genuine witnesses can find themselves in a relationship with a non-believer
((( Propel))), I wish you luck and hope you don?t get hurt. You are in a very dangerous situation
The ?rules? are that he/she should not be with you at all! but definitely NO sex, not even touching! And you really should take a chaperone on each date to avoid temptation!!!
All the best
Pudd xxx
yes...it is true.
though my picture here is fairly close to what i really look like50 tomorrow.
since i shall be busy tomorrow celebrating my fifty years of existence and especially my almost 5 years of freedom from the (b)org...please be kind to this old lady and stop by and wish me a happy birthday!
please forgive my ignorance on this matter, but i have been informed that the society have now changed their polices on accusations of child abuse and now will go to the police if there are any allegations made.
even without the 2-witness thing.
if this is true it takes nothing away from their past guilt but i was wondering if it is actually the case that the rules have changed or was i being fobbed off?
(((blondie)))
you make a very good point and one that is close to home.
my brother was abused by a priest when he was a child.
my husband works with children with "behavoural problems" many of whom have been abused in one way or another and non are witnesses.
S.L. is doing a great job. as are all the organizations that help abuse victims.