Posts by Shakita

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Social retards

by Simon in

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i've been thinking a lot recently about the interaction between people in the exjw community and it seem to me that the "jw experience" (sounds like a theme park ride doesn't it?

) polarises behavior somewhat between two extremes:.

we know in the jw scheme of things that friendships are very 'superficial'.

I hesitate posting to this, because I feel a certain guilt at becoming a JW as an adult. Through some of the posts on this board, if you became a JW as an adult, you are sort of looked at sideways.(that's not really sideways is it?, kind of sideways, then up)Oh, well. I think there is a certain animosity towards those who were not "born into it." Like, "How could you in your right mind join this insane cult? You must be really stupid! How could you bring your children up in this so-called religion? Where were your maternal/faternal instincts when you chose to bring your kids up this way?"

I regret everyday spent raising my kids up to be JW's. So much they missed out on. So much to make up for. I think anyone who has been a JW, for any length of time, must find peace with themselves at some point upon leaving. We all must try to fit into the normal social world again. But, I do feel that those who were brought up in it will find it harder to manage in the "real world" socially. We all have hardships in life that we must bear. But, I know first hand through my own children, (one still in) that every one deals with leaving differently. Some have no trouble fitting in socially with new friends, etc..., and some do not adjust to life as a JW so quickly.

I don't think time heals all wounds, as they say. Some we will carry on throughout our life. We just try to help others with the pain and hope to make some friends along the way.

Take care Simon. And, thanks again for the wonderful board.

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What sold you on the JW faith?

by MYOHNSEPH in

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i havent posted much here, but ive read a lot for about six months now.

although most everyone here appears to have had some degree of affiliation with the jw organization, the individual posters seem to be from pretty diverse backgrounds.

im really curious about something.

Shakita

My husband was a jw before I. I don't have a defining moment where I said, "This is it, the TRUTH." For me it was a gradual thing. I was invited to dinners, picnics, outings, you name it, we were invited. The term is love-bombed. And, I accepted that love with open arms. "These must be Jehovah's people, this must be his organization. The people are so nice and loving. I think I will ask for a study, it can't hurt." So, I studied, liked what I heard, wanted to please Jehovah, and became part of an organization I now detest. I still care for the people who I came to know very well. But, those relationships were only based on certain conditions. Conditions made up by an organization that is only concerned with its own agenda. So many families, so many relationships destroyed by the people who run this unconscionable so-called religion.

One of many who mourn the loss of family and friends at the hands of the evil WT

Mrs. Shakita

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How were you perceived .............. as a jw

by A Paduan in

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as a continuation of minimus' thread.. how do you think people perceived you - when you were a jw?

Shakita

One word:

WEAK.

Poor Shakita, so weak. Not making the meetings. Let's go visit her in service. Yes, that will be nice. We will visit her and show her how much we care, and then she will come back to the meetings. ...................Sisters visit with Shakita..........much upbuilding conversation, we miss you. The sisters leave. They return to the car and look at their watches. They write down on their time sheets, "2 hours--return visit" Then they go home. They will not think about Shakita again, until the next return visit, of course. Shakita is a good ~~friend~~ return visit.

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I married a stranger, did you?

by kenpodragon in

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in my current life i know a lot of people who live together.

some of them might have done this because they do not like marriage, and others have done this as a step towards getting married.

in all, in my post-witness life i find that i have no problem with either view.

Shakita

Another great post!

Congratuations on your freedom found together, and for the chance to raise a child with that same freedom!

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Feild service and answering

by shera in

i was wondering how you all felt about feild service.. i didn't like it all all,i would have minor anixety attacks and sweaty palms before i went door to door.

i would have a hard time taking a door,so one time,my loving "sister" left me standing at door by myself.i remeber being "happy".

i was very uncomfortable going to peoples door and trying to force religion on them,when they didn't want it.i only went out because it was imbedded in my mind that i had to go door to door to save peoples lives.i didn't want to have blood on my hands of the people i may have helped save with god's words.. with the answering,i almost passed out...lol..i used to be painfully shy.when i didn't answer enough,i would be judged as not being spiritually(sp)strong.the woman i was studing with would try to raise my hand up.the way i looked at it there was no accepting of who you were...had to be like the social butterflies to be accepted.now thats what i call love.

Shakita

Hi shera,

I also hated service and answering the redundant questions at the meetings, when I did answer. I am on the shy side so I found it hard to answer alot. Frequently, I was counseled about answering. All the drones must. If not, you cannot be part of the collective.

I was brought up to respect others, and when repeatedly going to the same doors in field service, I felt like this was disrespectful to them. I was always having to find a way to justify it with myself. Like, we will be bloodguilty if we don't, this preaching work was foretold in the bible, we must find all those who are sheeplike before the end, etc... we were so duped into believing that this was all for GOD. It wasn't for GOD, shera, it was for an organization who has billions of dollars in assets around the globe. While their poor followers are sacrificing time, money, their whole life, for an organization that doesn't give a crap about them, they are becoming stinking rich!!!!!!!

Mrs. Shakita

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Oh No, Not Again!

by Sentinel in

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last night, around 8:30 (sat., 10/19), it appears the serial snipers struck again.. if you travel south on down route 95, past spotsylvania, where two shootings took place, you come to a small town called ashland, va. there is a pondersoa steak house right off the highway.

a 37 year old man was walking out with his female companion, and he was hit by a single bullet to the abdomen.

they closed off route 95 entirely.

Shakita

Karen:

I really feel for you down there with this looney tune methodically murdering people.

I live in New Jersey and was at the Wal-mart last week. Upon entering the parking lot, I saw 2 police cars and the regular mall guard that is usually there. This mall is right off of 95 and I was wondering if the police were alerted to watch out for this sicko at all places where people might shop/get gas/etc... right off the highway.

Hope they catch this guy soon before anyone else gets hurt or killed. Watch your back down there.

Mrs. Shakita

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What's The First Step To Leaving The "Trut...

by minimus in

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for those that have entirely left, what was it that first got you seriously thinking that this really wasn't the truth?

for those that may be in just mentally, you can answer too....

Shakita

This is for the one anointed, self-absorbed, haughty, ignorant, blankhole of an elder. If you are lurking here, which I find quite probable, seeing you preach one thing and do another, this story is for YOU!!!!!!

The first step for me was, the above forementioned elder came to our house for a congregational "visit." Because, of course, they were so concerned about our poor, and I mean literally poor, family. This elder proceeds to give us some very IMPORTANT counsel. Counsel, you see, is very important to those who need food. Well, this elder, who is supposedly of the annointed class of loonies, proceeds to ramble on about the importance of all the robots in the kingdom hall answering the repetative questions put to them in their rags of lies. Well, when he was done with quoting some scriptures from the Bible which deal with this very IMPORTANT topic, one which I know personally Jehovah God is sitting there on his throne right now wringing his hands and condemning his children to the lake of sulphur and fire because they are not answering at the kingdom hall!!!!!!!!! I had the audacity to question this very respectedelder! He pointed out a scripture in Psalms dealing with this very IMPORTANT topic. I proceeded to point out that since that scripture comes from the psalms(definition-a sacred song or hymn)that maybe, just maybe, the writer was pointing out the importance of SINGING, not ANSWERING QUESTIONS, at the kingdom hall. He just sat there. Didn't know what to say. Guess the almighty anointed pondscum wasn't use to being questioned. This incident happened many years back. And, I know for a fact, that this loving brother still remembers this questioning of his authority down to this day.

This wasn't my first step, but just another story of loving concern by our wonderful group of loonies there at the Hall from Hell.

Mrs. Shakita, have a nice day

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Following the real truth to a better life

by kenpodragon in

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i was standing at the edge of a meadow , far from any others.

the flowers of spring had opened their peddles to reveal their colors.

the mountains in the distance were still showing their trace of the white winter snow.

Shakita

Ken:

I really enjoy reading your posts.

I think I am on that beach, too. I love the beach. Our family used to go to the beach here in New Jersey in the early spring and fall to fish and enjoy the quietness of the beach in the "off" season. Just remembering the sound of the waves and the peacefulness of the place makes me sad. My parents passed away last year and I will forever remember those wonderful times with them. Memories are really all we have in the end. It is so important to make those memories count with our loved ones. You never know what may happen tomorrow. Sorry, kind of got off the subject.

I don't like beer, I would like a nice, fine, sweet wine instead.

Mrs. Shakita

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I'm going to spend, Spend, SPEND!!!

by Englishman in

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it's arrival did, of course, remind me of the most famous littlewoods football pools winner ever.

i am a jehovah's witness now and have been for 21 years.

others are happy to see me.

Shakita

Changed her haircolor to match her cars? Sounds like she would fit in real well in the JW world!

Your story reminds me of a time in my life when we had very little money. I was very heavy into coupons and sending in rebates. I once received a rebate back for $2.00. Since we were down to very little food in the house, I took the $2.00 rebate check to the bank and cashed it. The teller at the bank when giving me back my money said, "Now don't spend it all in one place!" I was a little embarrassed, but said to her, "Don't worry, I won't." Kind of a sad and funny story. Thankfully life has gotten a bit better since. Stinkin' JW's always telling you to"be content with sustenence and covering." Jerks!

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Are JW's Satans children?

by sleepy in

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are jw's satans children?.

i was just wondering how ex-jw born agains and members of other religions view jw's and their time as one.do they believe , like jw's do of other religions, that satan is behind the movment?.

do you feel that in your time as a witness you were under satans control?.

Shakita

This is just my opinion.

Never saw a demon. Never saw Satan. Never heard a demon. Never heard Satan. Never felt a demon. Never felt Satan. Never in my life have I ever found proof of the existence of a demon world. (except in the movies, of course)

When I was a JW, I believed what I was told to believe. (2 tim 3:16) The bible MUST be the word of God. It says so. You must believe!

I no longer will hold my life hostage to what others tell me. I want proof. Some may choose to live their life differently. That is their choice. It makes them happy and fulfilled. I choose to live my life without the constraints of others opinions and interpretations.

What I will feel in the future, I personnally do not know. I just prefer to live life without the blinders on. Feels good. I just want to rejoice in the freedom of thought that lets us decide for ourselves if we want to believe in a higher power or the demon world.

Are JW's satan's children? No. They are children of an organization who manipulates them like puppets. They are comfortable believing in a world of pure Good and Evil. JW's are good, and everyone else falls somewhere in the evil world of Evil Satan. I feel so sorry for those who are blinded and cannot see past all the crap!