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  Why don't parents of an abused child go straight to police, why go to an elder first??

  by FeelingFree in

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  2. child-abuse

  i hope i don't come across as judgemental but having read a lot on the current child abuse cases and the different threads on here, i am left wondering why on earth a parent of an abuse victim would go to an elder with the problem first and not straight to police?.

  as a parent myself i know that if anything like that happend to my child (this applies to when i was still an active jw as well as now) i would not hesitate in going to the authorities as soon as i found out, it wouldn't of crossed mine or my husbands mind to go to an elder.

  maybe after we had reported it but definitely never as the first port of call.

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  MissFit

  Oops, Double post.
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  Why don't parents of an abused child go straight to police, why go to an elder first??

  by FeelingFree in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  i hope i don't come across as judgemental but having read a lot on the current child abuse cases and the different threads on here, i am left wondering why on earth a parent of an abuse victim would go to an elder with the problem first and not straight to police?.

  as a parent myself i know that if anything like that happend to my child (this applies to when i was still an active jw as well as now) i would not hesitate in going to the authorities as soon as i found out, it wouldn't of crossed mine or my husbands mind to go to an elder.

  maybe after we had reported it but definitely never as the first port of call.

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  MissFit

  Feeling free:

  Good question. You must also remember that many abusers are family members or close friends.

  Sometimes the families have their own agenda and own reputation to uphold.

  Many times sexual abuse is treated like a sin instead of a crime.

  Feeling Free, yes you are more independant thinking than most JWs.

  Btw: when I was 12 ,my 13 year old foster sister came to me to confide that our elder foster father had abused her.

  Some of our concerns:

  Would anyone believe us?

  Would he retaliate?

  What would become of us as a family?

  would foster mother blame her?

  I found out that night that he had been abusing

  my younger sister for years.

  It was several days before I could talk them into coming with me to tell someone. We had one more younger sister. I argued that the only way we could protect her was to tell someone.

  Because of the 2 witness rule, even at age 12 I knew my word alone would not do.

  (This was in the 70's.)

  We did not think of calling the police, we went to our foster mother who went straight to the elders.

  She had her own agenda. As children we were reliant on the adult's decisions.
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  Apostate with the HIGHEST ENTERTAINMENT VALUE has to be this lady

  by Terry in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=swgzcvh3rns&feature=youtu.be.

  she is magnificent!

  katie kitten.

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  MissFit

  Thank you for introducing her. I have been enjoying her videos.

  she seems to have a great personality and sense of humor.
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  Thanks in Advance

  by ctrwtf in

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  2. friends

  so sorry, why is it that if i brush the keyboard the wrong way it posts an unfinished rant?.

  thanks in advance for reading my drivel.. .

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  That's a good example Island man.

  How about appealing to your scripturally trained conscience or brotherly love- especially if it is a "conscience" matter? They won't tell you not to, but it is implied that if you do it, you have a weak conscience.
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  Thanks in Advance

  by ctrwtf in

  1. jw
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  so sorry, why is it that if i brush the keyboard the wrong way it posts an unfinished rant?.

  thanks in advance for reading my drivel.. .

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  That's the point.

  Its funny how you start noticing the manipulation when you are "waking up".

  See how many more manipulative statements you can find.

  It's like when someone starts off saying:" I'm sure you will agree that"

  Or " no doubt you feel this way"
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  November 8th Special Meeting

  by Chris Tann in

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  2. friends

  anyone have any leaks on this three hour meeting we are having early november?.

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  MissFit

  Has anyone heard any more about this? I thought it might be the branch visit they were talking about in a different thread.

  My friend just told me about it.

  Her congregation won't have a Sunday meeting that weekend.
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  one last step..Is being mentally out the same as being emotionally out?

  by MissFit in

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  2. friends

  we talk here about the importance of being mentally and physically out to be really free.. what about being emotionally free?.

  i realized for me, i had to be emotionally awake first.

  i had been yo-young back and forth for years.

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  MissFit

  I have really enjoyed this discussion.

  So far it sounds like leaving emotionally is as important as physically and mentally.

  There does not seem to be a particular order to it.

  As for me, I still have more work to do.

  I am having a hard time with starting and maintaining social connections. Making friends.
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  Life is short and I'm gonna love it thread!

  by poopsiecakes in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  so what are you doing to enjoy yourself?

  doesn't have to be for anyone around you, or have anything to do with jw world.

  just something that you do for you and only you and that fills your soul (whatever that means).

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  MissFit

  Way to go Rebel 8. Have fun tomorrow.
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  one last step..Is being mentally out the same as being emotionally out?

  by MissFit in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  we talk here about the importance of being mentally and physically out to be really free.. what about being emotionally free?.

  i realized for me, i had to be emotionally awake first.

  i had been yo-young back and forth for years.

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  MissFit

  Terry said: everything must change, before anything changes.

  Terry isn't that all or nothing thinking?

  This is an on going process some changes take time.

  Nieveau: it does take a lot of effort. I noticed the emotional pull of the vocabulary is lessening.

  when I hear the phrase: the last days I dont get that feeling of dread or urgency that used to.
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  How to make the most of wife not going to service meeting?

  by FadeToBlack in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  out of the blue, my wife told me that after this week's service meeting on friday (co visit) she is not going to anymore meetings during the week at night.

  only sunday (am) meetings.

  she explained that it is difficult and not safe for her to drive after dark (vision issues: i have the same problem so i couldn't help her if i wanted to).

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  MissFit

  Tal...loved your post. Your grammy sounds like a great role model.