Posts by MissFit

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Why don't parents of an abused child go straight to police, why go to an elder first??

by FeelingFree in

i hope i don't come across as judgemental but having read a lot on the current child abuse cases and the different threads on here, i am left wondering why on earth a parent of an abuse victim would go to an elder with the problem first and not straight to police?.

as a parent myself i know that if anything like that happend to my child (this applies to when i was still an active jw as well as now) i would not hesitate in going to the authorities as soon as i found out, it wouldn't of crossed mine or my husbands mind to go to an elder.

maybe after we had reported it but definitely never as the first port of call.

MissFit

3rdgen: thank you for your kind words. You are so right... those who have never been abused have no idea about the psychological hold the abusers hold.

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on UPI, this poster,Survivor, shared her story and it is heartwrenching

by nonjwspouse in

i have been following the comments to the $13.5 million judgement story.

this post is gripping.

i hope she finds support for the story being told by so many, over and over.... i am not even close to being qualified to understand fully.. http://www.upi.com/top_news/us/2014/11/01/jehovahs-witnesses-must-pay-135m-to-teachers-sex-victim/2761414865636/#comment-1673431193.

MissFit

Wannabe: those responses are programmed in...they are said automatically without a second thought.

I had a conversation with my friend and her mom about the $13 Million law suit.

I got the same programmed responses.

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one last step..Is being mentally out the same as being emotionally out?

by MissFit in

jw
friends

we talk here about the importance of being mentally and physically out to be really free.. what about being emotionally free?.

i realized for me, i had to be emotionally awake first.

i had been yo-young back and forth for years.

MissFit

So humbled: what was the question that bothered you?

Humbled it sounds like it started mentally with your questions and triggered you emotionally when you saw the effect of thinking for yourself then completed the journey by physically leaving.

I know from reading your posts that your journey is still on going. It will be interesting to see where you will end up.

Miss Fit

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Interesting Religious Conversation with my Daughter...

by garyneal in

yesterday, my wife was getting ready for the kh and told the kids that they had to get ready too.

i figured, oh well, they're heading to the hall at least i can get the time i need to catch up on some house work and what not.

before i know it, the wife gave up and allowed the kids to stay.

MissFit

Hey guys, the point is Gary was respectful about all religions when he discussed it with his daughter. His point was that people do things that may not make sense to others because they think it will please their god.

We may not understand it or approve of it, or even believe there is a God.

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on UPI, this poster,Survivor, shared her story and it is heartwrenching

by nonjwspouse in

i have been following the comments to the $13.5 million judgement story.

this post is gripping.

i hope she finds support for the story being told by so many, over and over.... i am not even close to being qualified to understand fully.. http://www.upi.com/top_news/us/2014/11/01/jehovahs-witnesses-must-pay-135m-to-teachers-sex-victim/2761414865636/#comment-1673431193.

MissFit

I can't read too many of those types of experiences. It triggers too many of my own.

it does help to know I wasn't the only one and to realize that even after 40 years the policies of protecting the ORG. Over protecting children is still in place.

It takes a lot of courage to speak out. As this problem gets more exposure, more people will be empowered to speak out.

These comments being made in public "nonapostate" sites will reach more people.

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one last step..Is being mentally out the same as being emotionally out?

by MissFit in

jw
friends

we talk here about the importance of being mentally and physically out to be really free.. what about being emotionally free?.

i realized for me, i had to be emotionally awake first.

i had been yo-young back and forth for years.

MissFit

Welcome New Demo &Nao,

Give it time. Everyone processes things at a different rate.

if you haven't yet, start your own intro thread& tell us about your journey.

Everyone on board loves to pop in and say welcome.

Feel free to vent if you need to.

You will meet many who you will identify with, you will read stories that will break your heart.

Take your time and enjoy the freedom here to question, to debate and to disagree.

Miss. Fit

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I'm done hiding who I am with my family

by cognac in

jw
friends

i'm pissed that i got scared the other day and didn't just tell my mom i was celebrating halloween.

i was caught off-guard when she asked what i was doing and felt that fear they instill in you.

hate that i still feel that way when i shouldn't.

MissFit

Kate: I have always admired that about you. You do not hesitate to speak out. I enjoy your posts because they are balanced and thoughtful.

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on UPI, this poster,Survivor, shared her story and it is heartwrenching

by nonjwspouse in

i have been following the comments to the $13.5 million judgement story.

this post is gripping.

i hope she finds support for the story being told by so many, over and over.... i am not even close to being qualified to understand fully.. http://www.upi.com/top_news/us/2014/11/01/jehovahs-witnesses-must-pay-135m-to-teachers-sex-victim/2761414865636/#comment-1673431193.

MissFit

Maybe comments like those will wake someone up or encourage others to speak out.

Did you find any more interesting comments you would like to share?

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BTTT / Marked topics

by Simon in

i've noticed a lot of topics being bumped recently with "bttt" (back to the top) comments or "marked" as the reply.. i'd appreciate if people think twice before doing this.

simply forcing topics back to the top even though there is nothing to say on them is not helpful and negates the usefulness of having an active topics view.

if everyone did this with every topic they want to push then things would quickly deteriorate so i don't believe some should be allowed to do it for whatever reason.. by all means post new and relevent comments to a topic but short esp single-word non-comments that are simply used to push certain topics back to the top are likely to be interpreted as spam and removed or blocked if necessary.. .

MissFit

Simon: I love the idea of a watch option.Londo is right- this site is fast moving and it is easy to miss something. Especially if you have a job.

Sometimes I dont have time to actually post but would like to revisit that thread.

Also tutorial for newbies would be nice. I didnt know I could click my avatar and go to my previous posts until someone mentioned it on a thread. Now I use it alot to keep up with the treads I posted on.

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one last step..Is being mentally out the same as being emotionally out?

by MissFit in

jw
friends

we talk here about the importance of being mentally and physically out to be really free.. what about being emotionally free?.

i realized for me, i had to be emotionally awake first.

i had been yo-young back and forth for years.

MissFit

Hi all. I was just reading some threads that made me realize how easy it is to underestimate the emotional pull the organization has on us and our loved ones.

The threat of being destroyed or losing loved ones at Armageddon can really mess with a parent's mind. I remember getting more "active" after my kids were born.

I also remember the guilt I felt for not doing enough. My husband and children were going to DIE and it would be my fault.

I am free from that now, and the relief I feel is so staggering.

I think you have to be born in to really appreciate the weight that was holding me down.