Posts by outbutnotdown

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It's Award Season....Let's have a JWD "Academy Awards"

by xjw_b12 in

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this is the time of year for the "awards" shows.

we have witnessed seen the people's choice awards, the golden globe awards, and the academy award nominations were announced today.

i think it is time for the jwd awards.. every nominee is a winner.

outbutnotdown

I agree with the LittleToe nomination for his disassociation during his talk.

I would also like to nominate Xandria for giving the wisest advice during Mario's darkest hours.

Brad

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A line they won't cross

by JH in

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i've been inactive since 1991, and nothing changed in my way of acting nor in their way of acting.

it's who will blink first.

the witness don't all shun me.

outbutnotdown

They never asked me to make up my mind, to come back or leave for good, a line they won't cross.

That sounds like a pretty good predicament to find yourself in, all things being considered.

Brad

41

Are you my Daddy?

by outbutnotdown in

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here's my situation: .

i have four children (10,7,6,4).

my wife (now ex-wife) and i were not getting along very well five years ago.

It's not necessarily that I am disagreeing with cj. Like my last post to her said, I agree that my ex will likely not succeed in taking my youngest from me. I am simply trying to find a way to stop her from trying. If cj has any ideas, (having been in the family law field for 15 years), on what else I could do to succeed at preventing it I would be very greatful.

If I seemed frustrated at cj, that was not my intention. My frustration lies with my ex only (well, her brain-dead parents too).

This Friday, for example, my 7 year-old gets to play in net for his hockey team for the first time. When I dropped him off tonight, he told his mommy that he had to make sure he goes, since no one else has the equipment (he is with her this weekend and she has not taken him to any games in awhile).

She told him his ankle is hurting, so no, he doesn't HAVE to go. He has played on the backyard rink with me for about four hours that last two days and never mentioned anything about having a sore anything. (Pardon the language ladies, but.....) The friggin' bitch TELLS him he is hurt and can't play. The poor guy was balling as she shut the door.

For every one step forward that I make with the kids, she drags them back two steps.

Brad

39

Ok, I got the call. I am going to be DF'd February 3rd

by AlmostAtheist in

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just got off the phone with the judicial committee, the same one that i blew off last sunday.

i wasn't even sure they'd call, but come to think of it, i think that's just what they're supposed to do if i don't show up.

they called as a conference call (none of them has been willing to talk to me on the phone alone!

outbutnotdown

Dave,

Sorry to hear about that!

But welcome to the "dark side"!!!

Brad

41

Are you my Daddy?

by outbutnotdown in

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here's my situation: .

i have four children (10,7,6,4).

my wife (now ex-wife) and i were not getting along very well five years ago.

outbutnotdown

But I still believe it would be very difficult for her to be able to take your youngest away from you "legally". That would be a long and expensive road, that she could exhaust with the Legal Aid system.

cj,

I agree that it would be very hard, if not impossible for her to actually accomplish taking her from me. Unfortunately she has already done numerous crazy things that have been straightened out by Judges, but quite often there has been a lot of damage done to our children by then.

I have learned to try my best at PREVENTING her from even being able to even TRY to do these things. To use an analogy: If somebody robs our home, we ceratinly have the right to feel violated and the robber is the guilty party. However, locking our doors is the first step to try to avoid feeling violated by the robber in the first place.

As far as being a "LOSER" who abuses the Legal Aid system....... yup, bang on again. It would piss me off to hear what she is doing, even reading about it in the paper. It just happens to be that my kids and myself take the brunt of her abuse, while she is "cheating" all of Ontario residents with her misuse of the legal system.

I have respect for people who actually require social assistance, but I also learned a BIG life-lesson with my first go-around at being married:

"YOU CAN A PERSON OUT OF WELFARE, BUT YOU CAN'T TAKE WELFARE OUT OF A PERSON!!"

Brad

41

Are you my Daddy?

by outbutnotdown in

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here's my situation: .

i have four children (10,7,6,4).

my wife (now ex-wife) and i were not getting along very well five years ago.

outbutnotdown

cj,

Believe me, I never thought that she would have done the hundred or so other things that everybody here would shake their heads at.

or maybe she is on Legal Aid, and that would explain she wouldn't care how much it cost, because they would be footing her legal bill.

BINGO!! Of course she had to lie and tell them that I was abusive to her in order to get Legal Aid, but hey, what's one more lie.

Brad

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The poster who you find the FUNNIEST here, and why?

by outbutnotdown in

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of course, different people enjoy different types of humour, so there will be a wide variety of responses, but if you could mention why you find that person funny, personally, it would be appreciated.. i would have to say that i have to pick two people.

i enjoy having humour displayed in a tasteful manner, but with wit.

a life-lesson taught with a laugh is about as good as it gets, imo, even if i am not capable of accomplishing that very well myself.

outbutnotdown

:Just as a side note......guys only.......if you put your hand under your nutsack when you laugh, you can actually feel them go up and down...it's weird. (Gumby)
Ok,...wait...ok....uhmm.. ok, go! Say something funny. (SixofNine)

This is why Gumby is on my list..... LMAO... and SixofNine is moving up in the rankings with quick-witted comebacks like that. Hillarious!! Brad

41

Are you my Daddy?

by outbutnotdown in

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here's my situation: .

i have four children (10,7,6,4).

my wife (now ex-wife) and i were not getting along very well five years ago.

outbutnotdown

Brad, why and how do you think your daughter would be taken away from her siblings.

calamityjane,

It's too long of a story to tell right now, but in short, my ex will do anything and has done just about everything to screw me over. The children are caught in the middle 98% of the time. From her history, I believe that if she found out, for example, that the biological father COULD step in and take our youngest away, she would take steps to make that happen. The negative impact it would have on our daughter would either be ignored or unrecognized. I'm not sure which and why, but my ex's history shows that to be true.

That's why the most important thing that I want to ensure is that my youngest of four children is GUARANTEED the stability that she now has in her family. I hope that explains it a bit.

LittleToe,

Meanwhile, I have to just comment and say that your "ex" seems a real piece of work

YUP!!! It's been one hell of a journey so far. Thanks for your concern, buddy.

Brad

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Are you my Daddy?

by outbutnotdown in

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here's my situation: .

i have four children (10,7,6,4).

my wife (now ex-wife) and i were not getting along very well five years ago.

outbutnotdown

If she wasn't yours biologically, is that something you'd really want to know?? Would you be her daddy if dna came back negative?

lonelysheep,

Regarding the first part of your question, I guess it is hard to understand unless you're in the middle of it. As much as I sympathize with the difficulties that are exclusive to women, the one thing you have in your favour is that you KNOW you are the mother. Men don't. Such is life.

In regards to the second part........ YES!!!!!!! Absolutely!!!!!! She is my daughter. I am her father.

Without anybody knowing my situation fully, I was asking these questions mostly to prevent my youngest daughter (who may not be mine, biologically) from being taken away from her three siblings and from me.

This has been a very interesting experience....... simply expressing my thoughts and getting back thoughts from so many loving people. It has convinced me what I have intuitively felt since I was very young: Who we become is 95% environment and 5% genetics. (I think 5% may be a little generous.)

Thank you all for sharing your thoughts/feelings. I think I have had a lot of positive affirmation regarding what I know I need to do.

Brad

20

Harder

by Music Mouth in

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.

as you get older, do you find yourself gravitating towards softer music, or do you find you like the harder stuff as much as ever?.

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outbutnotdown

I don't know if my tastes represent anybody other than me, but I'll share. When I was younger I was into more mellow stuff. I still like the mellow stuff, but as I have aged, I have gained a new appreciation for harder stuff. Not Motley Crue shit, but heavier that Elton John and Bread.

I'm 35 and I really enjoy the rock that is coming out now.

Brad