Catch your breath and agree with "Proceed With Caution."
Sounds like a typical relationship that becomes toxic, more so because of the Borg (WTS) than anything else.
There are numerous questions that need to be answered:
- Do you love your wife? Does she love you?
- Would you love each other if the Borg influence were removed?
- If you were DF'd / DA'd, do you have anyone still-in that you would really miss?