has there been any "new light" recently about how to treat disfellowshipped family members?
my cousin got dfd a few months ago.
i noticed that she had been spending quite a lot of time at my aunt's (her mother, an active jw) home.
Netty, I think you've hit the nail on the head. I wish my mom didn't need the WT to "remind" her about what her conscience will or won't allow. I wish she could go back to using her own brain to figure it out. I know she is embarassed about how she treated my father-in-law, and I asked her that since she now admits shunning him was "stupid", would she consider attending future family functions where he will be present? I guess only time will tell...
Thanks for letting me vent.
kj
has there been any "new light" recently about how to treat disfellowshipped family members?
my cousin got dfd a few months ago.
i noticed that she had been spending quite a lot of time at my aunt's (her mother, an active jw) home.
...just no talking about "spiritual matters".
I used that argument when they refused to be around my father-in-law, but they threw the "with such a man do not even eat" BS at me. They just pick and choose, and it pisses me off. My husband and I were very hurt by their behavior, and they never felt the need to apologize, because they were "just being loyal to Jehovah and protecting their integrity."
I know I'm not telling you all anything new. I just needed to vent. Thank you for being here.
kj
has there been any "new light" recently about how to treat disfellowshipped family members?
my cousin got dfd a few months ago.
i noticed that she had been spending quite a lot of time at my aunt's (her mother, an active jw) home.
I think in your particular case, your mother is just more open-minded and doesn't believe in abandoning family.
But that is just it, she had no problem shunning my father-in-law. Now she admits it was "stupid", just because my aunt is not shunning her daughter. By the way, it was my aunt who guilt tripped my mom into shunning my father-in-law. The whole thing just sucks.
kj
has there been any "new light" recently about how to treat disfellowshipped family members?
my cousin got dfd a few months ago.
i noticed that she had been spending quite a lot of time at my aunt's (her mother, an active jw) home.
Has there been any "new light" recently about how to treat disfellowshipped family members? My cousin got DFd a few months ago. I noticed that she had been spending quite a lot of time at my aunt's (her mother, an active JW) home. So I asked my mom (a JW), "are they giving aunt X a hard time for spending so much time with Y?" And my mom says, "Of course not, we're encouraged to help our family when they are in need." My cousin is also pregnant (out of wedlock), and having some problems with her pregnancy. I said, "Oh, well I thought they were much stricter about that kind of thing. What about when you and aunt X wouldn't come to my party because Z (my father-in-law, who is DF) was going to be there?" And she says, "Oh that. That was stupid." Gee, I tried to tell her that 2 years ago, but she was just being SO loyal to Jehovah. I just don't get it.
Don't get me wrong, I am glad they are not shunning my cousin, because she needs support, even if they don't agree with some of the choices she has made. Has something changed? Or is it just that it is all well and good until the whole DF thing hits closer to home?
kj
it has been a while since i last updated everyone.
i am doing so now because i think people going through what i am need to know that there is hope and although sometimes it may seem impossible, it isn't.
i am going to assume that anyone reading this post is familiar with my story.
kj
i was at a garage sale with my jw aunt and 2-year-old son.
he was happily entertaining himself with some of the toys for sale, when he picked up a (gasp) santa claus pinata and put it in his wagon!
do you think he's demonized?
Yep, his mom said, "No, we don't need any pinatas." It was too funny, he picked a double no-no.
i expect at least 1 good wishes...please!!!!
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Happy Birthday, Mouthy! And many more
kj
i was at a garage sale with my jw aunt and 2-year-old son.
he was happily entertaining himself with some of the toys for sale, when he picked up a (gasp) santa claus pinata and put it in his wagon!
do you think he's demonized?
I was at a garage sale with my JW aunt and 2-year-old son. He was happily entertaining himself with some of the toys for sale, when he picked up a (GASP) Santa Claus pinata and put it in his wagon! Do you think he's demonized?
well here is todays update.
we cannot be friends.
came over today and said that she needs this to be .
I'm sorry to hear that it ended up this way. You are doing the right thing, though. Just be there for her when she needs you. Educating her other friends and family is a great idea, too. I know this has to be hard for you, to just let it go for now. Just praying for her. You are a good friend.
kj
from reading this site i've learned that jws frown up buying used clothing etc.
from second hand stores because of possible 'demonization.
' my neighbors are jw and i notice that they have fairly frequent garage sales.
Maybe that is just some JWs? My JW aunt loves garage sales and occasional garbage picking.
