Netty, I think you've hit the nail on the head. I wish my mom didn't need the WT to "remind" her about what her conscience will or won't allow. I wish she could go back to using her own brain to figure it out. I know she is embarassed about how she treated my father-in-law, and I asked her that since she now admits shunning him was "stupid", would she consider attending future family functions where he will be present? I guess only time will tell...
Thanks for letting me vent.
kj