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  Boy its hard for teenaged JW's

  by skyman in

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  i had to come home early from work today because a 17 year old girl came over to me and was all upset she asked if she could come up and visit with my wife and i. she said the brothers are always picking on her and she can not do anything right.

  i asked,what have you done she said nothing every time it is some one making things up and she is tired of even trying any longer.

  teenagers come from over all the area they they know they can come and talk to us and we will not judge them.

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  Good for you. I have a few teenage cousins in the "truth" and I'm sure they could all use someone like you.

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  “We don’t even want to be in the company of unbelieving men or women.”

  by frogit in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  so said the watchtower july 15 2005pages 8,9,!

  this article is about single and contented in jehovahs service.

  the quote (we dont even want to be in the company of unbelieving men or women.

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  That kind of statement really pisses me off. My mom got sucked in as an adult. Her husband (my father) who she loves very much would be considered "one of those non-believers", as well as all 3 of her children and all of her grandchildren. And this is how "God's true religion" thinks she should feel about us? How people can keep eating this shit is beyond me...
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  The Little Things Rub It In

  by Euphemism in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  do you ever find that you think you've gotten accustomed to the shunning, and then some small, stupid thing comes along to reopen the wound?

  that's how i feel right now.

  it's been a while since i've really thought about it; the limited contact has simply become routine to me.

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  I hate the cult too! I'm sorry for what you're going through.

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  How many of you are childfree by choice?

  by rebel8 in

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  2. relationships

  by that, i mean you do not want to have children.. i have been told since birth it would not be safe for me to have children, so i never even considered it.

  i never went through a grieving period because the concept of having babies was not something i once had and lost.

  i always envisioned myself as a happy career woman.. i recently married and am still sure i don't want children.

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  I can totally agree with people who wish others would mind their own business about whether or not to have children. Almost as bad as "When are you going to have a baby?" is "When are you going to have another baby?" It seems no one is happy with you if you just want to have one. I love my little guy to death, and he was planned, but I can think of a lot of reasons not to have more. Reasons that are nobody else's business.

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  To shun or not to shun...

  by kj in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  has there been any "new light" recently about how to treat disfellowshipped family members?

  my cousin got dfd a few months ago.

  i noticed that she had been spending quite a lot of time at my aunt's (her mother, an active jw) home.

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  A Friend in Need:

  I'm not sure if she is or not. I know she still continues to see the baby's father (not a witness), and my aunt is not happy about that.

  Get Busy Living:

  Been there, done that. In fact, that is one of my mom's favorite parables. Go figure...

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  To shun or not to shun...

  by kj in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  has there been any "new light" recently about how to treat disfellowshipped family members?

  my cousin got dfd a few months ago.

  i noticed that she had been spending quite a lot of time at my aunt's (her mother, an active jw) home.

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  Netty, I think you've hit the nail on the head. I wish my mom didn't need the WT to "remind" her about what her conscience will or won't allow. I wish she could go back to using her own brain to figure it out. I know she is embarassed about how she treated my father-in-law, and I asked her that since she now admits shunning him was "stupid", would she consider attending future family functions where he will be present? I guess only time will tell...

  Thanks for letting me vent.

  kj
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  To shun or not to shun...

  by kj in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  has there been any "new light" recently about how to treat disfellowshipped family members?

  my cousin got dfd a few months ago.

  i noticed that she had been spending quite a lot of time at my aunt's (her mother, an active jw) home.

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  ...just no talking about "spiritual matters".

  I used that argument when they refused to be around my father-in-law, but they threw the "with such a man do not even eat" BS at me. They just pick and choose, and it pisses me off. My husband and I were very hurt by their behavior, and they never felt the need to apologize, because they were "just being loyal to Jehovah and protecting their integrity."

  I know I'm not telling you all anything new. I just needed to vent. Thank you for being here.

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  To shun or not to shun...

  by kj in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  has there been any "new light" recently about how to treat disfellowshipped family members?

  my cousin got dfd a few months ago.

  i noticed that she had been spending quite a lot of time at my aunt's (her mother, an active jw) home.

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  I think in your particular case, your mother is just more open-minded and doesn't believe in abandoning family.

  But that is just it, she had no problem shunning my father-in-law. Now she admits it was "stupid", just because my aunt is not shunning her daughter. By the way, it was my aunt who guilt tripped my mom into shunning my father-in-law. The whole thing just sucks.

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  To shun or not to shun...

  by kj in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  has there been any "new light" recently about how to treat disfellowshipped family members?

  my cousin got dfd a few months ago.

  i noticed that she had been spending quite a lot of time at my aunt's (her mother, an active jw) home.

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  Has there been any "new light" recently about how to treat disfellowshipped family members? My cousin got DFd a few months ago. I noticed that she had been spending quite a lot of time at my aunt's (her mother, an active JW) home. So I asked my mom (a JW), "are they giving aunt X a hard time for spending so much time with Y?" And my mom says, "Of course not, we're encouraged to help our family when they are in need." My cousin is also pregnant (out of wedlock), and having some problems with her pregnancy. I said, "Oh, well I thought they were much stricter about that kind of thing. What about when you and aunt X wouldn't come to my party because Z (my father-in-law, who is DF) was going to be there?" And she says, "Oh that. That was stupid." Gee, I tried to tell her that 2 years ago, but she was just being SO loyal to Jehovah. I just don't get it.

  Don't get me wrong, I am glad they are not shunning my cousin, because she needs support, even if they don't agree with some of the choices she has made. Has something changed? Or is it just that it is all well and good until the whole DF thing hits closer to home?

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  Update to Shawn's Story

  by Shawn in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  it has been a while since i last updated everyone.

  i am doing so now because i think people going through what i am need to know that there is hope and although sometimes it may seem impossible, it isn't.

  i am going to assume that anyone reading this post is familiar with my story.

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  Thanks for the update, Shawn. You're a good friend, I hope your story will have a happy ending.

  kj