am i alone in this feeling?
i wish i could muster the cojones needed to tell my husband "i want a divorce, move away, not be a jw anymore!".
i find myself screaming these same words over and loud inside my mind, several times a day, and yet on the outside my actions could not be more opposed to these inner feelings.. sometimes i worry that this internal conflict will cause me to go crazy.
Sofia,
Don't let the the craziness of Wally World dictate how you live your life. I understand wanting to support your husband but supporting him because he will lose his "privies" in a cult will only bring you misery and that kind of support always collapses.
i recently ran into a jw i knew from a few years back.you know how it goes, a few pleasantries that always seem much more awkward than they really should (not for me, mind you--for him).and then the question, "so what congregation are you attending?
are you able to make the meetings?
"i'm thinking: do you always start conversations this way?so anyways, knowing full well the jw-mindset, i decided to have a bit of fun.furrowing my brow, i said, "that's an odd question!
well, i told my wife over the weekend i was going to go back school to finish my degree.
she is 100% supportive of it!
apparently she doesn't think higher education is so evil either.. since my former major was computer programming and that was in the late 1990's, i was told i'd have to retake a bunch of classes since times have changed.
Congrats Cappytan,
Sounds like a good plan. Keep us posted.
new to the site.
currently i am a ministerial servant and was told i was appointed to be an elder.
i told the brothers i was not ready for that assignment.
Welcome Doctor Who!
The ride gets smoother as time goes by. Then the real ride begins, life! Hang on, you'll love it!
i've been disfellowshipped for about 5 years and extremely happy to be out.
my ex wife is still a regular meeting attender and takes our two young kids with her (8 and 6 years old).
i recently saw some of the caleb and sophia videos on the jw.org website and was completely appalled, i remember what i was taught as a kid growing up in the organization but this seems so much worse and now that i'm out i can plainly see the mind control.
SaneAgain,
Welcome. Different approaches work for different parents. My two children were considerably older than yours when I left Wally World but this is what worked for me. I did not try to persuade them as I knew their mother and other JWs would paint me as Satan trying to mislead them. I also knew that no decision is more meaningful than one that comes from ones own conclusions. So I was patient. As I was leaving the organization and after I was completely out I always answered any questions they might have but tried not to talk them into anything. It took some time but as they saw my life blossom and improve considerably, education, career, travel, relationships, overall disposition, etc., they began to see the light. There were some tough times and struggles but I am happy to say they are both out and thriving. The decision they made to come out is their own and it is solid. I could not have a more wonderful relationship with both of them. We are all happy to be out!
the movie american sniper is breaking box office records and of course there is some irony that a movie about a sniper is released on martin luther king day (who was shot by one).. but of course there is a world of difference between an assassin and a military sniper ... or is there?.
some are making a big stink about it and claiming that "snipers are cowards".
it seems unfair to me.
I saw the movie a week ago. As movies go I would rate it pretty good. It did keep my interest and evoked some thoughts and emotions.
As far as an opinion regarding courage or cowardice, it seems to me anyone that serves and has to shoot or be shot has to have some measure of courage. There are those that meet the enemy face to face, thank "God" for them. And those behind front lines, thank "God" for them. What I gathered from the movie, reading, and discussions with informed friends, it takes a special set of skills to be a sniper. Not only do you have to have the marksmanship skills, you have to be decisive and have already made up your mind that you will kill a person in certain scenarios regardless of sex or age. It has been reported that Kyle killed more than 160 people. I would rather know how many lives he saved by using his skills.
if you read jw literature, the world has been progressively getting "worse and worse" since 1914.. is that really the case?.
for a more rational analysis, look here:.
a few highlights:.
A Dumbass by any other name would...
new member here so don't attack :d here is a couple questions i have been contemplating lately.. .
if jw isn't the right religion, then which one is?
or is it basically believe in god, the bible and you'll be fine?.
World,
Welcome. Many have been where you are, including myself. Many JWs like to pose the question, "If not here then where?". Continue to ask questions, educate yourself, likely you will come to the same conclusion that many of us have. That is, once you leave Wally World you don't have to go anywhere. Just live your life and enjoy a non-judgmental world that has endless options.
what is up with jws?
lately, i've heard this line, "we don't judge .
but, doesn't everyone judge?
IMO, JWs are the most judgmental group in the world. This became clearer after I left. Do I remember correctly, if you were not baptized or children of baptized parents when the big A occurred, you were toast! No, not judgmental at all.
so many witnesses lost the opportunity to pursue higher education in their youths.
perhaps it took decades for many here to leave and now feel it is too late.
degree you will also earn multiple certifications from other agencies:.
Gaining knowledge, improving brain power, personal accomplishment, new horizons, making new friends and acquaintances, sharing ideas and thoughts, benefitting from other's experience, opening many more doors, when is it ever too late for any of these? Pursuing an education enhances all of these and so much more. I recommend regardless of age, it simply should not be a factor. If all goes well you will continue to age, with or without an education. In my case I could turn 45 without an education or turn 45 with an education. Either way I turned 45. Thankfully I chose to do so with an education, and I have not a single regret, quite the opposite.
