Posts by backformore

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Why do JWs have this* on their FB pages now?

by Kudra in

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I'm meeting with my congregation Elders Today HELP PLEASE

by LennaB in

meeting with my congregation elders today.. going to tell them about the things i discovered about c.t russell.

(astrology, racism, ect.

) i don't know how to present this information or what to say.

Eh, forget what all these people say. Go out in a ball of flames and laugh your head off the whole way. That's what I did and haven't regretted it once. Canceling and running is acting like you have something to hide or there is something wrong with you. You get in their faces and make them feel like the weirdos they are, the results will be the same as hiding in the long run, you'll get it over with quicker, and you'll be better able to look yourself in the mirror every mourning. Sure, I've paid the price with almost all my friends and numerous family members but if would have just shied away it would be the same regardless of how I left. At least going out with a bang was way more fun for me!

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I think this is closure for me.

by quellycatface in

well, i have finally got rid of my baptism cards.

the congratulations cards....the wt ones, the ones with sheep on etc.... all gone.

they dated back to 23/09/2000.. has anyone else "purged" their witness past this way?.

backformore

I'd never seen a flame as beautiful as the one that burned all ny old JW stuff a few years ago. Don't even remember why I chose to do it when I did but one night I just fdecided I'd had enough so tossed it all in a can and lit a match. It felt great too!

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Are you interested in dropping your southern accent?

by jam in

well you are in luck, oak ridge national laboratory in.

tn offered a class for their 4000 employees from 90. different countries, get this,a class that teaches how to.

minimice a southern accent.

backformore

Ladies especially, pease don't ever lose that southern accent. Trust me when I say, it's something the boys love.

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A good feeling

by backformore in

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so i'm back on here after being away for years.

i joined back up to vent about problems i was having with family but i thought i'd share a good experience i had on here too.. .

my old congregation was on one corner of a city block that was primarily owned by the local community college.

backformore

So I'm back on here after being away for years. I joined back up to vent about problems I was having with family but I thought I'd share a good experience I had on here too.

My old congregation was on one corner of a city block that was primarily owned by the local community college. As the college grew they started buying more and more property around them which means they eventually bought my old KH. Unfortunately, they didn't tear it down to make more parking like I had hoped. What they did do, however was completely redo the building into office space and then used the parking for the school. Now, I moved away from that town years ago. However, my family and my wife's family all still live within a few minutes drive of there. When we were back visiting one weekend I just happened to be driving by and saw a large dumpster outside that hellhole. I pulled into the parking lot and checked out the dumpster. Inside were a bunch of the old furnishings and decorations that I recognized from years before back when I was a member of that congregation. I started off just messing around and breaking some of the things I saw in there. As good as that felt, I eventually just started going nuts demolishing everything I could get my hands on until I was sore from the sheer physical exertion of it all. I know how crazed I must sound going on about destroying stuff that was already in a dumpster but the feelings of soreness from pushing my body so hard to destroy what once marked the areas that made my life as a teen so horrible felt amazing. To everyone here who went through even a fraction of what I did, I hope you can all one day get that satisfaction of personally destroying physical property like I did. Its hard to find the words to describe just exactly how good something like that can feel and what it can do for your psyche.

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Would You Care If You Were Disfellowshipped?

by minimus in

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just curious.

backformore

one of my biggest regrets from my time as a JW who was born in is that I never got baptized which means I can't officially be disfellowshipped. Then again, I would have had to have wasted evermore time to make that happen.

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What song or line from a song bests describes your time as a JW?????

by karter in

waisted days and waisted nites.. freddy fender..

backformore

I don't need to fight

To prove I'm right

I don't need to be forgiven

The Who

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Surreal experience last night.

by objectivetruth in

recently a jw friend that my wife & i knew 3 years ago added me on facebook, after i accepted the request she invited me to a dinner that her and her husband are holding next month.. i imagined that she was unaware of our apostasy, so i declined the invitation on the basis of not wanting to ruin her dinner after the rest of her guests fled at our presence.. i'm never sure how old friends will react when i tell them that i'm no longer a jw.. usually their response is "..... permanent-silence......".

her response went something like this, " we are all out!

everyone that is coming is out we all look forward to seeing you guys so much" it turns out that there will be 6 people at the dinner all friends of ours from a congregation that we attended a few years back.. they have all left the organization recently.. pretty crazy experience..

backformore

One of the happiest days I can remember was when my wife and ran into my childhood best friend when I was visiting the town I was born in. He seemed almost ashamed of himself as he told me he was no longer in. As I explained that I had left too and knew how much of a cult it was I saw him light up. the expression on his face was like back when we were kids again. I know mine was the same way. Go, enjoy it. You'll be glad that you did!

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back for more

by backformore in

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as the name says, i'm back for more.

i used to be fairly active on here but have been away for years and am back for more.. first, a bit about me.

i'm a 36 year old man.

backformore

Oh, trust me everyone, I know full well how much a cult it is. I know the cult mindset and have actually taken multiple college level psych classes to better understand it. That being said, however, there is more than just knowing about it. My wife had cancer a few years ago. Especially as a nurse, I understand the processes and causes of it just fine. What bothered me so was watching someone I love suffer through it.

even though I paid a price for it, I recognize what that cult for what it is and was able to leave it behind. I just hate it so much when I see someone who is my family suffering because of it when, if they could just wake up, they could leave it all behind too. I know they won't. Really, I do And I understand why as well. Unfortunately for me, that doesn't make it any easier to watch them waste their lives and that is my problem.

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back for more

by backformore in

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as the name says, i'm back for more.

i used to be fairly active on here but have been away for years and am back for more.. first, a bit about me.

i'm a 36 year old man.

backformore

As the name says, I'm back for more. I used to be fairly active on here but have been away for years and am back for more.

First, a bit about me. I'm a 36 year old man. I was born into the JW's. I never got baptized but that doesn't mean I wasn't super active back when I was in school. One thing led to another with my family and I left when I was 20 when I got married to a non-JW. I thought they were probably right but had just had enough of their crap that I didn't care anymore. A year or two later my wife got pregnant and I wanted to raise my son right so I started to move past that for his sake. What ended up happening was I finally figured what a load of crap all the JW stuff was. In a nutshell, I went out of my congregation in a glorius ball of flames and haven't looked back. Seriouslly, it was awesome and I have no regrets about it. I moved on and built a pretty good life for a while there. Then, as life often does, everything fell apart. I got diagnosed with kidney failure, celiac disease, got in a car wreck that broke my leg, got laid off from a pretty darn good job, and my wife got cancer (er she's all better and just fine now) all within the period of less than a year. Since then, I totally dropped my old career (even with various places offering larger and larger sums of cash to come work for them), went back to school, and just finished my nursing degree last week. An interesting life that I have no regrets of when you look back at it, even if it has been only 36 years.s

So what brought me back here? The need to vent some. I'm out of the "truth." So far out of it that it's not even funny and I'm never going back. My family joined back in the 40's. My dad heard how he would never get to see the end of elementary school before the new world came. Now, his grandchildren are past that age and "the end" is no closer than it was all those years ago. I've been trying to reconnect with various family members (mainly my sister, my nephew who I was like a dad to when he was a baby, and a cousin I was always so close to and loved dearly). Its part of the joy of Facebook that I was able to reconnect with these people. Putting it lightly, these reconnections have not gone well. How the @#$* do you talk to people that put stuff up about how the new world is so close when their entire lives have been wasted waiting for the same things that their parents have been waiting for but haven't seeen? How do you deal with someone you've loved your entire life that looks down on you because you've spent years learning how to care for the ill instead of wasting your time cleaning the bathrooms of stadiums where the people who think the same way will poop for a few days?

For that matter, it isn't even the fact that the people I care so much look down on me because I couldn't buy into the lie anymore. The thing that really bothers me is the fact that they still base their lives on such utter and complete BS. They can hate me for whatever reasons they want. As much as it may suck, I can deal with that. The part that really bothers me is watching them waste their precious and wonderful lives the same way I did as did our parents and even grandparents. I watch them pay the price that generations before have paid. It is a very steep price that takes a large piece of their beautiful lives that has already robbed so much from so many others and yet they are so blind to it all. I hate that more than I will ever be able to express.

At the same time, however, that's why I'm back for more. If there is ever a group of popele that can relate to what I am feeling, it is you all. I need to have a group of people that understand what it is I am saying. You can explain it to people who have never been a part of it but it will never be the same as talking to people that have experienced such things first hand.