Thanks for that bit of background information. It's amazing how people who've called themselves your 'brothers' just don't bother once you've made the choice to no longer attend meetings.
We've been out 18 months now. There was no call from the elders for last year's memorial and I'm sceptical as to whether they'll bother this year.
I'm really glad to made the choice to cut off and enjoy your life, hopefully your wife will follow soon.