I am df'd and have been for 17 years. If you can help it, my advice is NOT to get yourself df'd.
AlwaysBusy
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Elders, apostasy and disfellowshipping issue's - thoughts please
by FeelingFree inok so... when i was talking to my mil about why i no longer wanted to be a witness she kept trying to convience me that i needed to speak to the elders.
i said from the word go i didn't feel the need to as my mind was already made up and no one could change it.
i also said if the elders new all my reasons for leaving they would view me as an apostate and i would get disfellowshipped.
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My best friend died yesterday
by TimeBandit insometimes people make special connections to animals.
sometimes they bond very deeply and are real friends.
yesterday was the end of such a friendship that lasted ten wonderful years.
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AlwaysBusy
I am so sorry, I hope you are able to feel better soon. I have lost dear pet friends...they are the best friends.
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Inserting the Governing Body in Scriptures
by lambsbottom ina church divided over leaders10 i appeal to you, brothers and sisters,[a] in the name of our lord jesus christ, that all of you agree with one another in what you say and that there be no divisions among you, but that you be perfectly united in mind and thought.11 my brothers and sisters, some from chloes household have informed me that there are quarrels among you.12 what i mean is this: one of you says, i follow [the governing body]; another, i follow [the organization]; another, i follow [jehovah's witnesses] [b]; still another, i follow christ.. 13 is christ divided?
was [the governing body] crucified for you?
were you baptized in the name of [the governing body]?14 i thank god that i did not baptize any of you except crispus and gaius,15 so no one can say that you were baptized in my name.16 (yes, i also baptized the household of stephanas; beyond that, i dont remember if i baptized anyone else.
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Where Are You on The Witno Scale?
by tresdecu in1 - still think it's the truth ...came to this site cause danger is your middle name.. 2 - concerned, smoething's amiss but still believe.
3 - 98% sure it's bs, but still go for / with family.
4 - anger / denial, inactive with minimal attendance (ie memorial, spec talk etc).
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I'm curious about the Publisher Record Card.
by HowTheBibleWasCreated ini was once told that a publisher had the right to examine their own record card.. what would happen if a publisher examined it and threw it out?.
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Phizzy ~ TWo elders visited me in my home 2 weeks ago. As I said, my publishers card was lost (I was told this by the elders). They said they called up Bethel and were given a copy. This is what they told me. Being a peon in the org, I only know what they tell me. It matters not to me.
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I phones...I dont understand it?
by new hope and happiness inis it worth queing two weeks for a phone?
i mean why que two weeks for something we already have a phone?.
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AlwaysBusy
WOW! Someone else who loves the old westerns!!!!! Cheyenne, Sugarfoot, The Rifleman....I had the biggest crush on Clint Walker. Yummy!Do you remember Annie Oakley??
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I'm curious about the Publisher Record Card.
by HowTheBibleWasCreated ini was once told that a publisher had the right to examine their own record card.. what would happen if a publisher examined it and threw it out?.
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My Publisher's card was lost being transferred from my old hall to the new one. The elders called Bethel and got a copy of it.
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Reinstatement via Old Cong.
by startingover13 ini've applied to be reinstatement in a new city after attending meetings for a bit.
i wrote my letter and they heard my case.
they were very helpful.
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AlwaysBusy
THis is something I really, really hate...the Judging.....the infernal judging that never ends. why? why? why? Many Ex-JWs are as judgemental and pious as JWs. And I defend you... I won't do it again.
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Reinstatement via Old Cong.
by startingover13 ini've applied to be reinstatement in a new city after attending meetings for a bit.
i wrote my letter and they heard my case.
they were very helpful.
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AlwaysBusy
Oubliette ~ I tried 17 years ago... at that time I was married to a different man. My husband, at that time, worked with the elder, who was good friends with hubby and our family. The young man who was raped was engaged to a girl in our kingdom hall. Her family was afraid to do anything, and really didn't know what to do. The young man's family came down from the state they lived in to talk with the elders, the boy was blamed, so no action was taken on that side. My oldest son told me what happened to him, but my youngest son wouldn't talk. I warned every parent with young sons, in my hall and in others and only one family believed me. Everyone else looked at me as if I was crazy. The elder was removed as an elder, but nothing else happened to him. There were special needs talks on gossip and disfellowshipping warnings. My husband didn't believe me when I told him of the elder molesting our sons. He didn't do a thing...not one thing. My son begged me not to go to the police...he couldn't handle it. He was a young boy and embarrassed and afraid. The man I am married to now was not there and is not a witness so no one gives a shitte what he says except me. Do you think it was easy for me, a woman alone, no family who were Witnesses or any family or friends that could/would help me. Everyone afraid of being df'd or shunned! No one believing that a goody-goody elder could harm someone! People running to the elders saying I was gossiping! One boy, only one boy thanked me. We were at an assembly and he came up to me and hugged me and thanked me for telling his parents. I confronted the elder and threatened his life. I was df'd. My husband divorced me. What more do you want?
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How Have You Been Affected By Having Been A Jehovah's Witness?
by minimus inis your life over?
are you totally screwed up?
are you able to move on?
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AlwaysBusy
I am the only JW in my family, and df'd. My 3 children were baptised, and are very good people, they left after my sons were molested by an elder. My siblings (7) and I were raised as JWs, none got baptised, all left and did other things with their lives. I've been going to meetings for 61 years.. I talk to my kids, and family as none are Witnesses so that's great. But, I have no friends, don't know how to make friends. I don't trust anyone. I always feel this sharp pain of sadness. I believed everyone felt like me, when I was active. I was so happy, had wonderful friends, did good deeds, studied alot. But when the elder drugged and molested my kids and raped another boy in our Hall, I found out I didn't have any friends...and my poor kids, never got any sympathy or understanding. My oldest son has had drug and alcohol problems ever since. Since then, 17yrs has gone by and in that time, I have seen more evil at the KH than I can believe, in elders' meetings....and shepherding visits. It still shocks me. Now when I go to a meeting, or listen on the phone, I don't believe anyone. AM I screwed up? Yes. But I have happiness too. My husband is very supportive, I married him after I was df'd, only knew him for a month, but he was someone who I could talk to. ANd he is still the only person I can talk to and who understands me. I lost everything back then and so did my kids, and I am 63 yrs old now. I am happy, I am going to school, studying Arabic and Spanish, I love my flower garden, my husband and I do a bit of traveling. Two elders were here a couple of weeks ago. They started to open their bibles... I told them to close the bible and don't say a word out of it, and that I was sick of them telling me I am a sh*** person because I am df'd. AND that I wouldn't allow them to talk about Jehovah, as he had nothing to do with any of this. I was upset and I scared them, because they knew I was ready to start swinging my fists. I had had enough. Enough of their torture. When does it end? and yes, I did see a psychiatrist for 9 years after I was df'd.
