the recent boe letter announcing changes to the duration of circuit assemblies was warmly received by congregations the worldover.
it was as if the brothers and sisters were already in the new world for, upon hearing this news, there were no tears at all.
instead, it is a humble acknowledgement from the gb of the mind-numbing, yawn-inducing 2-day circuit assemblies.. .
Assemblies were IMO an attempt to replicate the Jewish festivals.
Did they dress up in super uncomfortable clothing? Did they force their children to sit for the entire day, right down to the toddlers? Did they force crummy, unhealthy food on the Jews?
What did they do at the Jewish festivals?
as a ex jw i am cyncial to dating perhaps because i did not do much dating as a jw.
do any of you still feel this way?
i am not against dating but i am still that dating and getting yourself emontionallt attached is sort of a way of being in chains..
Guys who genuinely like women, they are the best. That's along with BOTR's comment. I don't mean like women for the sex they can provide for you. You know, their breasts, backsides and genitalia and what you can do with them, being the only things you like, or that and being waited on hand and foot. I mean men who genuinely love the feminine gender and all that goes with it. Men who like women tend to be liked by women in return.
as a ex jw i am cyncial to dating perhaps because i did not do much dating as a jw.
do any of you still feel this way?
i am not against dating but i am still that dating and getting yourself emontionallt attached is sort of a way of being in chains..
Sorry for the typo's what I meant to say is that dating is one way to get yourself into emontional chains.
This is true. That's why dating people you know is safer than seeking out people you don't know.
When you're not a kid anymore, you realize there is nothing simple about dating. Unless I know I would enjoy a couple of hours of someone's company, I'm not going to date the person. It's also good to find people who are truly after what you're after in dating. Do you not want a serious, long term relationship or marriage? Do you hope for it to be just light, enjoyable company? Do you just want to date with sex as the main goal?
I'm a person who thinks you cannot make Miss or Mr Right happen. You can't force a natural, good relationship with the wrong person. You will either click or you won't.
One problem I have found with men in my age group is that most of the single ones are divorced or widowed recently. Unlike young men who want to play the field, these guys can't stand the void in their lives and they want to replace the misses-- like yesterday. Some of them want someone to take care of them, mamma style. They also think they are falling in love, almost immediately, when really it's a simple crush on someone they find charming and attractive. They want to be committed, too early. It's pretty burdensome to have 5 people out of 6 think they are in love with you and want to delve into a long term. I'm not against a long term, committed relationship, nor am I against being loved, but it has to be with the right person, under the right circumstances.
i just want to publicly apologize for being an ass to fhn.
fhn, you do annoy the heck out of me many times, but i have to acknowledge that you've continued to be friendly and not take it personally.
differences aside, that's worth a lot.
Thank you, Coco. I'll have to look for his post.
i just want to publicly apologize for being an ass to fhn.
fhn, you do annoy the heck out of me many times, but i have to acknowledge that you've continued to be friendly and not take it personally.
differences aside, that's worth a lot.
Does anyone besides me wonder how John Doe is doing?
recently, a public speaker brought up this point that i remembered being preached in the 70's.
when they bring this matter up, they always manage to give you an experience of how one person stood his ground, and got a great job offer, as a result.. what about the many experiences of ones that were not blessed?
i can memtion horror stories of ones that should have kept working their meetings..
We had good friends in our cong. The dad was an elder, the real life fred flinstone. He had to work 7 days a week for months. He had many years built up with Goodyear that he was not interested in throwing away. What did he do? He stepped down. He was a nice guy.
hey, im bohms girlfriend.
i thought i was feeling better... i quitted the anti depressant a year ago - but now ive started again.
i know the jw isnt the truth- but i feel so very lonely.
My doctor is willing to pay for a psycology but i dont know if that would really help me?!
It will help!Take it. Do it. Work on your worth as a person. Work on letting go of irrational fear and anxiety that gets drilled into your head as a JW. That fear response will surface in your life all the time and it will feel like depression. I have had a few years of counseling for anxiety and I hardly ever feel depressed anymore. The only time it feels that way is if something is making me feel insecure or scaring me.
Here are some suggestions: take a night class in something you enjoy. Meet people who enjoy the same thing you do that way. Volunteer work. You can get yourself out and around people in positive ways. The loss of family does grow more distant and less in your face. Meanwhile, build new relationships. I have people who are like sisters to me, mothers to me, etc. I won't say it never hurts that my only sister and youngest brother will not speak to me even if there is a death in their end of the family, but it's rare now. I've had years for other people and things to fill my life.
valentines day.
another holiday that unbelieving spouses can't celebrate.
just one out of many holiday's and important days that we get the shaft on.
Play this (even if you hate country music, pretend you love this) and sing along with gusto, when your husband is within earshot. After that, sing the chorus here and there when he's around. The beat of this song alone is very empowering. Be EMPOWERED. Take your power back.
valentines day.
another holiday that unbelieving spouses can't celebrate.
just one out of many holiday's and important days that we get the shaft on.
Honey, I'm having the girls over for lunch today:
(Candy cigarettes of course, but real wine.)(Edit, wait, that's whiskey.)
valentines day.
another holiday that unbelieving spouses can't celebrate.
just one out of many holiday's and important days that we get the shaft on.
Be happy and radiant. Have a love affair with your life! It's contagious.
