Give her space and time. Put everything JW on the back burner and look after the woman you fell in love with.
Remind her of THAT.
That's correct. Remember, your wife is programmed to respond in certain ways to certain ideas. She needs time for her subconscious mind to resolve a whole host of issues. If you confront her or try to push your own enlightenment, her mind will go into resist mode. Do your very best to avoid anything that might cause the fear reaction to kick in.