I agree....step down. If your wife see's it, this will make it easy. Look at all the free time that you will have not being an Elder. You can spend more time "working" on your wife. Move slow, so as to not scare her. It takes time. These Elders are clowns who need some sort of authority in life. Let them enjoy the cult that they are a part of. If they want to do all the work in the Congregation, let them. You will be freed up. lol Plus, you won't have to play their petty little games anymore.
Keep us posted.