Welcome iwasblind. It is a rough journey but very well worth the effort. If you can fade successfully, life will get 100% better over time. We have been out for 2+ years. It's a much happier life. We always felt something just wasn't right and faded together. At least you have each other to lean on.
Keep us posted on your progress. There are alot of nice people on here that are or have been through what you are experiencing. We are here for you!