Wow....great post. Reading through it confirms the abusive, destructive and cruel organization my parents joined years ago. Similar abuses have been witnessed by our family as well. Our family brushes it off to..." imperfect men." That is fine, let them stay, we choose not to participate anymore. The abuse stops with our immediate family. When we saw our teenager beginning to feel the abuse, we decided that it was time to stop the pattern.
There is NOTHING that you can say or do with the Elders, CO's or just the uber JW's that will make them change. They are part of a cult. They have to figure it out like we did.
I worked a few years ago for a man who was a true narcissist (100%). I did a tremendous amount of research on these types of people and it lead me to realize that most JW's are narcissists. In my research, I learned that you CAN NOT change these people, you have to remove them from your life. Best advise was...."run don't walk." That is what my spouse and I did four years ago. Ran! We never looked back. We did not give anyone an explanation, reason, justification why we left. We just left! FAST! To this day no one truly knows why we left. They have tried so hard to engage us (aka...hang us). We realized that they are trying to get rid of us. Once you engage with these people they now have been given their narcissistic supply they need. Not engaging with them pisses them off more than anything else. It's been entertaining to watch!
I know you can say..."but they (WT) are destroying peoples lives" and yes they are but it is starting to bite them in the ass. The internet is doing a fantastic job of exposing WT . The child abuse cases are hitting the news and the emotional abuse is rampant. If you are a newly interested one and you Google Jehovahs Witnesses a astronomical amount of negative info comes up. The growth of the org is diminishing. Young ones are leaving and the ones dying are not being replaced with new ones. It is a slow bleed for WT. They may never go away but they will be just a blip compared to what they once were. It's coming. It may take some time but it's coming.
We have decided that life is short and we want to enjoy it. We are much happier out then we were in. How can that be? We were told we would be miserable. Not so! Once we got the abusive, destructive and cruel cult out of our lives, it was amazing how much better we felt.
Karma is coming to get WT. It is already happening. WT loves $ and we have NEVER seen WT beg for $ the way they have over the past several years. Not asking for money used to be something, as JW's, that we were proud of . That doesn't exist anymore.
I guess the point I am trying to make is this. Someone years ago told me..."never let anyone steal your joy." What a great saying. WT was stealing our joy and we stopped it. We now have JOY! Life won't be perfect but we are enjoying the life we have now. We are watching our family that gave WT their life. They have no joy. They don't have any education which caused them not to be able to save for retirement. They are struggling so much they can't even take a small vacation. WT told them back in 1969 that they would not need an education, the system is at it's end. Now they are all struggling with no hope in site. They are also facing the fact that they WILL die. We know one day we will die as well. We don't know what happens after that. We take one day at a time. Today we know we have THIS life and we are enjoying it. WT can't steal our joy, we WON'T let them!