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  Deflated after realising my inactive friends are POMI

  by Isambard Crater in

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  2. friends

  i'm going through an extremely hard and dark time right now and really yearned for the support of people i know in the flesh, and i really thought revealing my serious doubts and frustrations to a few close friends who became inactive several years ago would help.

  they attend the memorial and no more than 2 sunday meetings each year, and haven't preached for several years, so are still technically baptised-but-inactive.. it broke my heart or at least left me feeling very alone when they all (they don't know each other and live in separate areas) told me that they can sympathise but reckon i should stay with "the truth" (their words, still) as it's the best thing there is.

  it's like i'd discovered a new group of people, not pimo (physically in, mentally out, like me) but pomi (physically out, mentally in).

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  Sorry, to hear about your disappointment with these friends.

  Hopefully they are not contributing financially to the org! POFO - physically out financially OUT. The GB's worst type of fader!
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  Great News in the EX Jehovahs Witness World!!!

  by Christian Gutierrez in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  we are so overjoyed with what is happening in the exjw community!

  it is places like this forum where many can have a place to interact anonymously and be felt like they are understood.

  you guys are awesome!

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  So glad you all shared this with us. We appreciate all you do! Love your videos!

  We hope the little girl you mentioned will be ok. She is definitely in our thoughts!
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  World Religion News: New Jehovah’s Witness Headquarters Hosts First Open Houses

  by AndersonsInfo in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  http://www.worldreligionnews.com/religion-news/new-jehovahs-witness-headquarters-hosts-first-open-houses.

  new jehovah’s witness headquarters hosts first open houses.

  28 apr 2017 posted by nathan glover .

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  Does the public tour include the Governing Bodies apartments? You know, so the public can compare it to other bethel rooms reserved for the rest of staff? .

  All rooms and apartments are the same size...right?

  That's right! JW's DO NOT have a hierarchy. ALL bethelites are equal!

  They follow Jesus example to the letter: Foxes have dens and birds have nests, but the Son of Man has no place to lay his head. - Matt 8:20.

  Welcome to Warwick!
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  Has anyone else experienced this?

  by ToesUp in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  my spouse and i have faded 4+ years ago.

  we know the jw rumor mill has gotten back to our family that we no longer attend.

  most of our family is out of state.

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  ToesUp

  Thank you all for your responses. I appreciate it. We are actually very happy all is going this way but we are always prepared for the jig to be up. Yes...the family is very close and most have witnessed and actually have had the JW abuse directly done to them. Maybe Xanthippe you are right. Maybe they really believe in family. I hope so! We just have to be inwardly prepared for anything. The questions may come one day and we are willing to give honest answers. The interesting question will be, will the JW family still accept us as they do now. Too bad we don't have a crystal ball to see the future. We are ready to "go clean" if we have to.

  Thanks everyone! This forum is a great therapy to me. Thank you all!
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  Has anyone else experienced this?

  by ToesUp in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  my spouse and i have faded 4+ years ago.

  we know the jw rumor mill has gotten back to our family that we no longer attend.

  most of our family is out of state.

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  My spouse and I have faded 4+ years ago. We know the JW rumor mill has gotten back to our family that we no longer attend. Most of our family is out of state. We have a pretty close relationship with them all and have been supportive to them with all they have been through. They are all getting up in age. We have shared a lot of our doubts with them as well over the years. They do not seem to want to address the issue with us. They never ask if we attend. NEVER! Assemblies are not asked about, attendance at Memorial is not asked about. It's like they don't want to talk or ask about it. Our conversations are pretty much about daily life.

  We are not complaining about it (actually it is a great thing), just perplexed. Has anyone else had this happen? If so, what do you think their thought process is? Are they burying their heads in the sand, do they have doubts to but can't discuss them? They don't want to know and don't want to have to choose to not associate with us? Are they just trying to keep us close because they are getting older? We are just curious if any of you have experienced this same thing? If so, what are your thoughts?
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  Hanging out with JWs is exhausting!

  by StephaneLaliberte in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  not long ago, there was a funeral for a sister i haven’t know very much, so i did not attend.

  however, some old “friends” i know drove down to town to assist and i ended up spending some time with them.

  quite honestly, i was happy to see them again.

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  "Sons of Anarchy" series. Yet, he would never tell that to to others in the group."

  Yep...we had an Elder in our congregation banging a woman on the side but did not mention it to our friends who were being verbally and emotionally abused by him in their JC. lol
  
  
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  Bethelites are Employees

  by berrygerry in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  bethel seems to have legal fires happening everywhere.

  https://www.newera.com.na/2017/04/28/church-loses-labour-case/.

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  Oh well...it looks like Jah took another smoke break. Where is he? WT didn't win in Russia and it did not win this one either! Oh my, what is going on, no blessings. But we always have the ole PERSECUTION CARD to use.
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  Hanging out with JWs is exhausting!

  by StephaneLaliberte in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  not long ago, there was a funeral for a sister i haven’t know very much, so i did not attend.

  however, some old “friends” i know drove down to town to assist and i ended up spending some time with them.

  quite honestly, i was happy to see them again.

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  My spouse and I were talking about this subject yesterday. I told him it is like a BIG pink elephant is sitting in the room. Everyone knows it is there but just won't acknowledge it. I think there are more JW's that you can imagine who have one or more issues and doubts with WT.

  JW's are all about appearances and don't want anyone to think they are anything but the purest of the pure. I call them whitewashed graves full of dead mens bones. It is exhausting but also very sad. I can't imagine carrying on a relationship with anyone who can't express themselves. I think so many of them are paranoid that they will be "marked" or talked about ("I think so and so is an apostate...oh my").

  I am so thankful that we no longer have to put those "performances" on. I feel so much better being free of this draining cult.
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  August 2017 Watchtower - Screwing with J.W.'s minds again

  by The Searcher in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  in the latest issue of double-speak, i'd like to highlight these two statements:.

  page 3, par.

  2 - "...how encouraging it is to know that jehovah’s faithful servants in the past felt free to express the same question that may loom in our minds, and they were not condemned for asking it!

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  "They also seem to be really emphasizing obedience and soliciting donations far more than just a few years ago."

  This is a GOOD thing. WT would not mention it if it was not a problem. The ranks are not following WT direction and they are NOT donating. I'm so grateful everyday for the Internet!
  
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  March 1, 2017 BOE Re: Update on Local Design/Construction Arrangement

  by wifibandit in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  march 1, 2017 to all bodies of elders in the united states branch territory re: update on local design/construction arrangement.

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  Well, that is 12 minutes and 7 seconds I won't get back.

  Another dog and pony show! WT has to keep letting the rank and file know that their money is being used "wisely." I believe a lot of JW's are questioning things.

  Hey girls, did you notice how the sisters noted that they are assistants to their husbands. Like a secretary! I work with so many women who could run circles around these men. Window washers/janitors by day, super heros by night. At least they get to wear a suit and feel important.

  So they had to give up family, pets and one guy said kids are growing so fast. You have got to be kidding me. WT wants you to give up everything for THEM. NO...THERE NOT A CULT! It just goes to show how gullible people can be. I'd like to see the interview of these ones in about 20-30 years when WT has replaced them with new models. Out with the old, in with the new!!!

  Mrs. Toes