@Dwainbowman, i suspect you didnt read the OP as your reply dosent address the type of leaving being discussed
@gio- lol hard call and not my OP anyway.
for my unofficial count im going to score it as a "wife left first, husband mentioned it first"
husband - 1
wife - 1
wife mentally out first but husband spoke out first - 1
husband mentally out first but wife spoke out first - 0