Blondie, respectfully, you are comparing some very very different things. This so called father left his son swinging at a door. Its embarassing and it no doubt made his son feel bad on a lot of levels, dad didnt back him up when he should have, dad made him feel stupid for not being able to handle something that he shouldnt been able to handle anyway etc etc...
That is so far removed from sexual abuse i cant believe you even loosely made the comparison. Its also a HUGE devide between physical abuse and what happened in BE's story. HUGE. Im not saying it was right but it wasnt anywhere near either of those situations you described.
Im sure most will give you latitude to speak on those abuses as a survivior and i would never diminish what you had to overcome and deal with... but To essentially say BE did the same as those who ignored your sexual and physical abuse is dead wrong. He dosent need barbara anderson to tell him how to deal with this. Or silent lambs. Or the police. Im sure i will get roasted to no end for my POV but your comparison is way off base and out of line.